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post #1 of 7 Old 08-28-2010, 07:31 PM Thread Starter
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Advice please??

I have been going to this stable for all my time horse riding but now I'm starting to get put off it because the girls and instructors there are quite mean and sometimes I have been coming home crying from what they say to me! I'm thinking of trying out other stables to see if i would enjoy it better. Do you think I should try other stables or stay at my current one?
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post #2 of 7 Old 08-28-2010, 08:04 PM
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Riding horses should be fun and enjoyable. If you are going home crying, I expect you are not enjoying yourself. You could talk to your instructors first and let them know their comments are hurtful more than helpful and then wait to see if things improve. You could also look for other barns. I think it is good for a rider to be exposed to a variety of different teaching styles and methods. You will learn something a little bit different from everyone you work with. Even though learning can be hard work, it should always be enjoyable and rewarding.
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post #3 of 7 Old 08-29-2010, 04:21 PM
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^agreed. If it's not fun, you should leave. Talk to the instructors and girls first, saying that their comments are hurtful. If the girls continue to bother you, you could always talk to your instructor about it, or leave. Good luck.
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post #4 of 7 Old 09-19-2010, 01:43 PM
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From what I have seen going to the stables w/ my wife and listening to the caddy girls talk there ridiculous trash. My thought on the subject is that the girls you are dealing w/ are probably just immature. Bringing up your hurt feelings will more likely make them just talk more trash, only behind your back. I would suggest trying a new trainer. Like the poster said above too. The more trainers and styles you are turned on to. The better rider you will become. You may like the next trainer way more.
Of course I really don't know the situation you are dealing w/ so I could be way off base.
My wife's main trainer may the best trainer we will ever meet. She is very to the point though and an easily offended person I'm sure could end up crying because they take things personally when they should not.
Either way, good luck.
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post #5 of 7 Old 09-19-2010, 05:35 PM
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What Koolio said. You're paying money to ride and putting a lot of time and effort into something you love - it's a hobby, or a lifestyle for some of us, and while it can be tough, you should also be having fun. It might be worth it to make the hard choice of leaving, and in the long run it'll be better than sticking around with an abusive crowd. Good luck!

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post #6 of 7 Old 09-22-2010, 11:13 PM
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Life's too short to waste in a barn like that. Find a place you where you can be happy.

You just have to see your don't have to like it.
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post #7 of 7 Old 09-22-2010, 11:34 PM
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I agree with all , so far. Look elsewhere. People who are sniping at each other are usual sniping at their horses. And vice versa.
Do they treat their animals well? Your learning environment is really important. You cannot change them and I agree with the fellow who said talking to them will only make things worse.
Find a better barn. Often a place that is less fancy, where the horses have turn out and can act like natural horses and theres some laid back feelings is the best place.
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