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post #1 of 72 Old 11-25-2011, 09:57 PM Thread Starter
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Another whiny thread about being a barn owner...

Horses and their owners: You can't live with them.. and you can't live with out them. As a barn owner you whine because you never get to take a vacation and then when you do get a "vacation"... it's torture to not be there! I miss my ponies! I know all horse owners feel this way but for me as a barn owner.. I feel responsible for everything for both horses and owners. I hate not being there when they need me!

One more gripe: Sometimes I hate how personal our business is. I love and hate with equal measure how it's a community and a family. As a barn owner, especially when you live at the barn, you feel like you're life is on display and you have no privacy. For me personally, I'm pretty open and honest about most things so private things for me are realllly private but at the barn, nothing stays that way for long! It makes me nervous to have my weaknesses displayed at my place of business.

I have some time off this weekend... Any good debate threads? Maybe I'll come up with a fun list of the perks of being a barn owner..
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post #2 of 72 Old 11-25-2011, 10:34 PM
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I don't own a barn, but I can sure see where privacy would be something you'd have to take strong measures to protect. I never met a more gossipy bunch than women at a barn! Some men, too. Anything you say can, and will, be used against you in a kangaroo court of law!
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As a foster parent of teenagers, you have no idea of the level of privacy that you have now. Imagine your boarders sleeping in your house every night?

I manage for my kids to not to be in my personal business, it's not possible for them to know something unless it is shared in front of them. If your boarders are aware of personal stuff from you, then you are sharing with them or doing things in public. It's hard sometimes when there is an argument brewing with your spouse, but there is no reason to do it with an audience.

As far as time off, I get 21 nights a year without the kids. I think so far in three years, I have managed three weekends that I can think of when I did not get a bunch of phone calls during this time. It's the nature of the beast.
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post #4 of 72 Old 11-26-2011, 01:04 AM
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I can't see where it's a perfect job, but it's the one you chose....
This is what I tell myself daily as I deal with the hardships of my life. I've spent four nights away from my "job" in 12 years. I'm a stay at home mom, and privacy isn't an option....money is always tight, but so is the relationship I have with my kids.
You, well you chose your job, it's a hard one, but very rewarding I'd assume. Your boarders can either be customers or family, depending on you. Our BO is family, and we all know each others business. If your barn in full of ickies, and they are "family" then it's time to have a family prayer meeting in the barn.
But...as I said, it's our life, we chose it.
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Some stuff is unavoidable though... even some marriage stuff is unavoidable especially when you run the business together. LOL if my boarders didn't know me or have a sense of humor at all my husband and I would be pretty frightening. We're the bickery types..
Me: "Hun where are those freaking wire cutters for the 800 billionth time?! GEEZ!"
Hubby:"uhhhh up your butt and around the corner?"
Me: "I just checked and they're not there so what did you do with them?!" Hubby: "You sure? I would be more than happy to help you check ......"
Me: "On second thought.. I might have left them in Image's butt (my bitchy mare). You should definitely check there!"
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Well that sounds... professional.
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Yeah, that's just not a way that I act period, so I don't understand that. I don't have that sort of relationship with ANYONE!
Don't fight in front of children and keep fights out of the barn.
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Professionalism might help you out. Sure it's your home, and you work together, but there is no reason to talk to each other like that in front of others. Do you behave differently in front of his parents, or your children? I would hope so, and that's how you should behave when you are working.

Seriously, who in the world would want to hear that crap from another couple?
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It makes me nervous to have my weaknesses displayed at my place of business.
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Sorry, I couldn't help but laugh out loud. You are nervous about a few people knowing your business, yet you post this on the WORLD wide web?

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post #10 of 72 Old 11-26-2011, 08:40 AM
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I'm a barn owner, but I only share it with the horses. It's a beautiful thing!

I do have lesson students and training clients in and out but no boarders or daily drama. Boarding is one thing I've always sworn I wouldn't do. Too much headache. I like my privacy, not having to share my arenas, and get to keep my sanity (well a little anyway...)

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