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post #1 of 25 Old 01-22-2011, 10:43 PM Thread Starter
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Buying halter for lesson horse - would you be offended?

I'm probably thinking too much about this, but I don't want to get on my trainer's bad side or offend her in any way because she's great. So, I'm hoping to maybe get a couple of opinions. (My trainer's also the BO.)

I ride at a small, laid back barn. I don't board there, I just take lessons. Anyway, one of the horses I ride doesn't have a halter and lead rope that's designated for them. So, the trainer just tells me to grab one from the barn. Which means taking one of the private boarders halters/ropes from the aisle.

This makes me very uneasy. Kind of like if the horse owner walked in, and I had their halter, I'd feel like a thief, or that I'd been 'caught.' I've seen barn drama erupt over a missing curry comb, much less a halter.

So, I went out and bought a halter and lead rope. It's nothing fancy at all. Just a simple halter with throat latch and nylon lead. But now I wonder if I'll be stepping on my trainer's toes if I come walking up with them in tow. I wouldn't want it just for me, but also for other people that use that lesson horse.

Would you be offended if a student did this?
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post #2 of 25 Old 01-22-2011, 10:54 PM
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I think that's very nice of you. If I were her that's what I'd think. If you're still nervous about her seeing it as charity or an insult or whatever, you could still call it "your" halter that you would like to use on the horse, like a favorite crop that you bought yourself or something.
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post #3 of 25 Old 01-22-2011, 11:00 PM
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You could ask her if she would mind you buying the horse a halter since he doesnt have one, and tell her you would really like to since you dont have a horse of your own to buy one for. She doesnt have to know you already have it :)
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Heavens no! If you were my student I would be impressed that you cared that much.
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I kind of don't think she'd care that much. If she said just go grab a random halter, then I don't think it would matter very much if you used your own every time. But it also doesn't hurt to ask!
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I don't think that she would mind in the least. Having worked at a small lesson facility, I can tell you that its very time consuming, and hard, not to mention expensive to makes sure that you've got enough different sized saddles to fit any students you may get, and that will fit the horses, plus the bridles and bits for each horse, and halters that fit each horse, in addition to the helmets and boots needed for the students. So I think that she would be pleased that you took it upon yourself to get the horse his own halter instead of using whatever one you could grab and hope it was okay.
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Thanks so much for the replies, y'all. :)

I honestly didn't/don't think it would have been a problem, but it is a small barn and it's just her doing everything, so I didn't want her to think it was charity, or that I was being a snob.

Anyway, I'll take it out there tomorrow and see what she says. Thanks again!
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post #8 of 25 Old 01-23-2011, 10:16 AM
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i think it's great that you did this for the horse you ride and if i don't think the BO will be offended. I used to work at a small lesson/training barn and we had a lot of older school horses and lots of students so we had to cater for a lot. sometimes our grooming supplies got old and it was the last thing on the list to replace; one of the students parents went out and bought us a bucket of different colour curry combs and everyone was thrilled with it. I bet the BO will be happy you're thinking of this horse enough to want it to have it's own things.
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post #9 of 25 Old 01-23-2011, 10:51 AM
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I think that's a great idea!! I used to ride with a Barn Owner & Trainer from Germany. He was a retired Colonel and we used to have Horse Christmas where we would all buy presents for the horses we rode. I didn't own a horse but just took lessons & went on trail rides. Horse Christmas is a custom in Germany. He would also have spicy mulled wine for us all and it was a really nice time for all including the horses. I think she would be impressed that you were buying the horse you were riding a present!!
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post #10 of 25 Old 01-23-2011, 04:34 PM Thread Starter
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Well, she was busy with a lesson when I came up, so I decided to just take the halter and lead out of my bag and go off and get her. As I was walking back up to the barn, my trainer had finished her lesson and came over to talk. She noticed it pretty quick and said the halter looked great and I just sort of mentioned how it fit her better than the others, where it comes down almost to her nostrils and that it was a cheaper one ...

And that was pretty much it as it was a busy day. But I plan on telling her that other students are more than welcome to use it if they need it to fetch her or anyone else when I go back on Wednesday.

Thanks again everyone!
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