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post #1 of 23 Old 12-12-2010, 02:20 PM Thread Starter
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Do you want to see your BO or BM?

I'm curious... When you go to the barn, do you like to see your barn owner or barn manager there?

I feed in the evenings so I'm there when most people have already left and don't see many boarders. I also like to try and ride when no one is there so I can get stuff done.. Everyone is always asking me their opinions or to ride their horse for them which I do love to do but when I ride as little as I do these days it takes away time from my own horses.

No one has said anything but I get the feeling that they may think I'm not there enough.. Does that make sense?

FYI I hate those acronyms...Anyone have another suggestion? Instead of barn owner I think body odor and barn manager as bowel movement! I don't want to be thought of as any of those!!!

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post #2 of 23 Old 12-12-2010, 02:26 PM
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I prefer there to be no one there when I go to the barn. I like to be alone during my horsey zen time. Plus I am not to fond of my Barn Manager. Some of the boarders I don't mind seeing, and I like all the minimum wage type people at my barn. But all in all, I'd rather be by myself.

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post #3 of 23 Old 12-12-2010, 09:29 PM
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I like to be able to see them once or twice a week. I wouldn't particularly like seeing them everyday since I'm kind of a loner type, but questions do come up and I hate talking on the phone so it's nice when I see them regularly. At the last place Lacey lived at, I never saw the BO, I had to literally go into her house and find her if I wanted to talk to her at all. She never answered her phone either, or called me back which made things even harder. That was seriously excessive in the direction of not seeing her.
At the place I am now, I see the guy who owns the land pretty much once a week or more. Often I just see him and wave and call out "Hi!" and that's the extent of our conversation, but it's nice to know that he's around if I did need to talk about an issue or something. I'm also the only person using his land (I hesitate to say boarding since I'm not paying anything, I just take care of his llamas and fill his bird feeders when he goes to Arizona for a month every month or so) so he's not afraid of getting roped into a long conversation.

Yknow, with your boarders now, it might be that they talk so much when they see you becuase they don't feel they see you enough. Kind of like a dog that misses it's BFF? Horrible comparison, but yknow. Perhaps if they saw that you were around more they'd start leaving you alone more once they realize they can rely on the fact that you will be around if they do discover they have a question. I know that would happen to me with my previous BO who was never around. When I saw her I had so many questions and stories bottled up inside that we'd end up talking for an hour or more just to get all my questions answered.

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post #4 of 23 Old 12-12-2010, 09:41 PM
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It depends on my relationship with the BO.

At my last barn I was at I dreaded seeing her. I liked to just have the arena to myself and zen.

Where I ride at now though, I love to see her.
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post #5 of 23 Old 12-13-2010, 09:16 PM
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I don't mind seeing the land owners. I do business with the wife. Occasionally I see the husband around taking care of stuff and we'll say hi or wave, but no real conversation. And their two boys (like 6 and 8 years old I think) I see some mornings or late afternoons. They are always excited to see me and will run over to me. Generally they are okay, but the don't stop talking even when you ask them to unless you use your "starting to get irritated" voice, but will stay outside the fence if you tell them that they'll get run over while lunging.
The wife(whom I would consider the BO), I see her around if I come out at certain times, but for the most part, I am all alone out there. Their house and stuff is at the front of the property and the horses are at the back. The property is about 10 acres, so it's like I'm by myself, which I like, as I am a very solitary person.
The BO works from home, so I know that she is always available if I need her(like when I lost Thelma for a half hour.... :blush: ) even if I don't see her regularly.
It helps that there is even a separate driveway that goes to the barn too, so I don't have to park up at the house either.

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post #6 of 23 Old 12-15-2010, 10:29 AM
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I like to see the BO around. She is a very nice lady and I like her a lot. But more than anything, the more I see her around, the more comfortable I feel about having my horse there on her property.

I know without a doubt that she is there should anything happen and I know that she will be there everyday, no matter what.

I wouldnt want to board at a place where I never saw the BO. It would make me wonder about the security of the place and if she ever showed up.
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post #7 of 23 Old 12-15-2010, 10:36 AM
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I think the answers so far make it pretty clear that the answer depends totally on the situation and the people.

I boarded one place where I was happiest if I snuck in and and out and never had to see the barn owner. That barn owner was intrusive and annoying and just preferred to not have to discuss any aspect of life with her. Her husband was nice, I was perfectly content if he was out there.

Last place I boarded the owner is someone who has become a good friend. I was always happy to see her.

When I was boarding at my trainer's it was nice to see him several times per week in case I had a question that needed resolving.

Now days that everyone can text everyone else I am guessing it is not as important to actually see your barn manager as you can text them any thing you need them to know.

Originally Posted by starlinestables View Post
FYI I hate those acronyms...Anyone have another suggestion? Instead of barn owner I think body odor and barn manager as bowel movement! I don't want to be thought of as any of those!!!
Glad I am not the only one who has to think about those two acronyms when I see them.
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post #8 of 23 Old 12-15-2010, 02:06 PM
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I see the barn owner a few times a week unless he's out on a long haul. Sometimes we wave and others, we speak if he's out and neither one of us are busy. They are VERY nice people. The only thing I hate about him is that he finds it very amusing to sneak down there when I'm having my zen time and scare the crap out of me. But hearing him laugh after I jump out of my skin and scream is kind of funny.

As far as the acronyms...I guess I'm a a whole lot...on the s-l-o-w side. I never even thought of associating either one of them with stinky pits or poo...LOL

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post #9 of 23 Old 12-15-2010, 02:12 PM
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I like having my Bo around at the barn i'm at now, hes really nice and always has some advice or somthing interesting to tell me. He also likes to hang out while everyone rides and gives out advice too.. now I know some people may not like that but i'm always open for suggestions. He was a reiner at one time but has also taught english too so some of the different techniqies he knows I find interesting and just helps me expand my knowlage of the horse and rididng

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post #10 of 23 Old 12-15-2010, 02:32 PM
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I like to see the BO/BM around and doing things but I would never bother them if they were working on something. I do feel that people need to relearn courtesy. If your BO is working on fixing fences or cleaning stalls, its not a great time to strike up a conversation unless you want to grab a pitchfork.

I like to keep people in their own categories. BO's have their place. In some circumstances, they are the BO and the BM at the same time. Unless they open the door, they are *not* a trainer. They take care of your horse, the end.

Barn work is very hard work. Its harder if you keep getting derailed by someone wanting to know how Pookies working trot looks. If the BO is just standing around, hanging all away! If not, I don't think its right to bother someone for free advice.
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