The comments about big girl panties I believe come from the silly list of never ending reasons (excuses) why you do not want to let her go.
The horse world is full of rumors.
Boarding and training, even at great barns, tends to be very cyclical.
If this girl does not start a rumor that causes a couple of people to leave there will be something else down the road that will cause a couple of people to leave and a lull before some new people come.
Why keep a bad employee because you are worried about a rumor?
The type of people that will leave or will not come because of a rumor are the type of people you really do not want anyway.
I find it quite alarming that a barn lost 15 boarders as a result of one person. There were obviously deeper issues. Here's how it goes for me: If I'm happy I stay, if I'm not I leave and while I do listen to what others have to say, most of it stays at that. Obviously these boarders were more than unhappy and for more than just one reason.
I will not go into detail about this barn or the particular person and what rumors were spread....but I know the barn Owner personally, and what this ex employee said happened would make you get up and go.....
Um no. I doubt it. I have to agree with Jamzimm. I make my staying with a boarding barn/trainer decisions based on my experience, not rumors.
Plus, when a rumor does come around you have to take into account where it is coming from.