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post #11 of 22 Old 10-20-2010, 04:31 PM
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I am not a BO either, and I can see that it does no harm to ask, but I personally would not ask.
The horses that you are talking about are considered to be for an advanced rider, and as you are not taking lessons on them yet I think it might be a bit soon. Unless you consider yourself to be more of an advanced rider.
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post #12 of 22 Old 10-20-2010, 05:06 PM Thread Starter
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As a BO myself - I would say if you approached and offered to lease - I would be more open. Then the ball is in her court to offer you a free lease versus a paid lease.

Just walking up and offering to ride my horses for me - I would be a bit taken aback that you may be trying to tell me I don't do enough with my horses or they need more work.

You also have to think of it from her view - if you 'lets' you ride her horses, what does she say if someone else asks? As a BO - we have to have the appearance of being neutral - no favorites. Otherwise we are looking a politics and the dreaded barn drama.
Thank you! This is what I was looking for. Unfortunately, I do not want to lease someone else's horse. Kinda like leasing a car to me, just don't choose to go that route. So, I would definitely not offer to lease and then have to say, uhhh actually I don't want to when she doesnt offer the free lease. I can also understand the neutral position and not wanting to say yes to me vs. saying no to someone else. I would keep our agreement very professional and only between us, however it may eventually come out or be obvious to other riders.

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I am not a BO either, and I can see that it does no harm to ask, but I personally would not ask.
The horses that you are talking about are considered to be for an advanced rider, and as you are not taking lessons on them yet I think it might be a bit soon. Unless you consider yourself to be more of an advanced rider.
Alex, I would definitely consider myself rusty, however I would also consider myself very "capable". I say "capable" because when I think of an advanced rider, I think of Grand Prix riders or equivalent. Let's just say, I wouldnt DARE offer to ride someone else's horse(s) if I didnt think I was capable of not only being in control, but adding to that horse's knowledge as well.

I will most likely not say anything to her tomorrow. Maybe I will get to know her a little better and just see if she needs some help in other areas first, not necessarily having to do with riding the horses. It just really does seem like she could use an extra hand at times. Even helping the younger children tacking up...its like there isnt enough of her to go around since she is trying to run the operation herself.

I just don't want to overstep my bounds.

Mls, would you feel more comfortable if someone offered to help you with barn tasks until you got to know them on a more personal level?
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How about going the sneak route and saying that you want more riding time to build muscles etc. and does she know anyone would might be interested in you exercising their horse for them?
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How about going the sneak route and saying that you want more riding time to build muscles etc. and does she know anyone would might be interested in you exercising their horse for them?
Ooooh, that IS pretty sneaky

I will feel her out...like I said, we really get along very well. She is a very sweet individual and I think she really likes me. I know anyone can say that, but she really seems to like to talk to me. I am there almost 3 hours everytime I ride LOL.
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Ooooh, that IS pretty sneaky

I will feel her out...like I said, we really get along very well. She is a very sweet individual and I think she really likes me. I know anyone can say that, but she really seems to like to talk to me. I am there almost 3 hours everytime I ride LOL.
Sounds like a good plan! Hope it goes well.
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Most BOs already have a policy in mind for extra riding time/exercising. I think you should just ask her what hers is. Some will let you work with horses for free, if it is one not doing a lot of work. In my case, I charge a small hourly fee ($10) for any student of mine that wants to get in an extra hour here or there, but I won't just let them come ride for free, even if they are very capable. That way I don't have to worry about playing favorites. Everyone who is at an advanced enough level to handle extra riding is given the opportunity, if they want to pay for it. They are using my horses, my facility, and my equipment, so this is basically a "rental fee". But every BO is different.

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Most BOs already have a policy in mind for extra riding time/exercising. I think you should just ask her what hers is. Some will let you work with horses for free, if it is one not doing a lot of work. In my case, I charge a small hourly fee ($10) for any student of mine that wants to get in an extra hour here or there, but I won't just let them come ride for free, even if they are very capable. That way I don't have to worry about playing favorites. Everyone who is at an advanced enough level to handle extra riding is given the opportunity, if they want to pay for it. They are using my horses, my facility, and my equipment, so this is basically a "rental fee". But every BO is different.
That makes complete sense! Thank you for commenting!
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mls, would you feel more comfortable if someone offered to help you with barn tasks until you got to know them on a more personal level?
I just had this very situation. We have a few new boarders and one came with a 'tag along' friend. For liability purposes - the tag along leases from one of the new boarders but does not pay anything. (none of my business as long as all of the paperwork is covered) She has already offered to help around the barn. Does not know me and does not know the horses or the routine.

It's not personal - it's professional. You do not need to 'know' someone to work with them.

Leasing is an excellent way to solidify your skills and to explore the depth of owning a horse. You can get your feet wet without being overwhelmed.
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Leasing is an excellent way to solidify your skills and to explore the depth of owning a horse. You can get your feet wet without being overwhelmed.
I agree with this completely. Maybe I didnt say this before, but I have owned horses in the past and I have also boarded at several facilities. I just don't currently own a horse.
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You know I asked her if I could work around the barn in order to get some more Riding time and she seemed okay with it.

I gotta ask her about it again to see if she thinks it be okay.
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