As a BO myself - I would say if you approached and offered to lease - I would be more open. Then the ball is in her court to offer you a free lease versus a paid lease.
Just walking up and offering to ride my horses for me - I would be a bit taken aback that you may be trying to tell me I don't do enough with my horses or they need more work.
You also have to think of it from her view - if you 'lets' you ride her horses, what does she say if someone else asks? As a BO - we have to have the appearance of being neutral - no favorites. Otherwise we are looking a politics and the dreaded barn drama.
Thank you! This is what I was looking for. Unfortunately, I do not want to lease someone else's horse. Kinda like leasing a car to me, just don't choose to go that route. So, I would definitely not offer to lease and then have to say, uhhh actually I don't want to when she doesnt offer the free lease. I can also understand the neutral position and not wanting to say yes to me vs. saying no to someone else. I would keep our agreement very professional and only between us, however it may eventually come out or be obvious to other riders.
Originally Posted by AlexS
I am not a BO either, and I can see that it does no harm to ask, but I personally would not ask.
The horses that you are talking about are considered to be for an advanced rider, and as you are not taking lessons on them yet I think it might be a bit soon. Unless you consider yourself to be more of an advanced rider.
Alex, I would definitely consider myself rusty, however I would also consider myself very "capable". I say "capable" because when I think of an advanced rider, I think of Grand Prix riders or equivalent. Let's just say, I wouldnt DARE offer to ride someone else's horse(s) if I didnt think I was capable of not only being in control, but adding to that horse's knowledge as well.
I will most likely not say anything to her tomorrow. Maybe I will get to know her a little better and just see if she needs some help in other areas first, not necessarily having to do with riding the horses. It just really does seem like she could use an extra hand at times. Even helping the younger children tacking up...its like there isnt enough of her to go around since she is trying to run the operation herself.
I just don't want to overstep my bounds.
Mls, would you feel more comfortable if someone offered to help you with barn tasks until you got to know them on a more personal level?