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post #1 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 04:22 AM Thread Starter
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Angry rude barn managers?

Hi all.
I'm having some issues with my manipulative, dragonish barn manager right now (as per usual) and I'm wondering if anyone else has had similar troubles? Maybe stories to share? I could use the laughs.

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post #2 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 04:23 AM Thread Starter
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Whoops...I guess I should have put this in Horse Stables and Barns...

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post #3 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 05:16 AM
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I've had a BO steal a halter and lead rope of mine and claim it was hers. She literally took it off my horse's stall (where it had been hanging for months) and hung it on her horse's stall. Then went nuts on me about how she just bought it yesterday for her horse, and there's no way it could be mine.

I had bought it at a tack shop in Brehnam, about two hours from where I live, and it's the only place they sells the particular brand that this halter was. I ended up driving her to the tack shop where she claimed she bought it and showing her that they don't sell that particular brand of halter and lead.

She gave them back, but not happily.

I have no idea what could have come over her and caused her to do such a thing, and think I would buy it. But it was crazy. o.0

Sorry you're having BO trouble. :[
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post #4 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 09:13 AM
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Wow, that's mean LeahKathlene. Some people can be real snobs.
I hate when people steal my stuff, I get really mad. My riding club is good though. Noone ever takes anything that they don't own...

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post #5 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 10:38 AM
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Well - not knowing why you are saying she's dragonish - I can only assume you disagreed on something.

As a BO - it is not my job to go out of my way to make everyone happy. I used to try but it is simply too much for me. I provide dang good care for the horses and the facility. Rules are laid out at the interview. If anything changes, it is notified via formal posting and e-mail.

I'm the one feeding and cleaning stalls at 5:30 a.m. and again at 10 p.m. rain, sleet, snow or -24 degrees. All the while my boarders are snug in their beds. Fixing fence instead of riding my horse because your horse decided to fight over the fence. I can't help if I don't know there is a problem. I will NOT address an issue unless it comes directly from the boarder. Complaining to another boarder only makes person look like a whiner.

Yes it is my choice. But to hear you have a headache or cramps or 'forgot' it was the 1st and can't make it out to pay your board on time WILL tick me off.

Dragonish enough for you?
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Well - not knowing why you are saying she's dragonish - I can only assume you disagreed on something.

As a BO - it is not my job to go out of my way to make everyone happy. I used to try but it is simply too much for me. I provide dang good care for the horses and the facility. Rules are laid out at the interview. If anything changes, it is notified via formal posting and e-mail.

I'm the one feeding and cleaning stalls at 5:30 a.m. and again at 10 p.m. rain, sleet, snow or -24 degrees. All the while my boarders are snug in their beds. Fixing fence instead of riding my horse because your horse decided to fight over the fence. I can't help if I don't know there is a problem. I will NOT address an issue unless it comes directly from the boarder. Complaining to another boarder only makes person look like a whiner.

Yes it is my choice. But to hear you have a headache or cramps or 'forgot' it was the 1st and can't make it out to pay your board on time WILL tick me off.

Dragonish enough for you?
Good comeback Everyone needs to remember there are 2 sides to every coin.
I'm sure there are wonderful BO's and nasty boarders and vise versa.
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post #7 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 11:38 AM
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Good comeback Everyone needs to remember there are 2 sides to every coin.
I'm sure there are wonderful BO's and nasty boarders and vise versa.
Thank you. Though it wasn't so much intended as a come back but exactly what you said - there are two sides to every story.

We all need to vent. But it's those that constantly complain yet are doing nothing to improve the situation. If there is a problem and all you do is complain you ARE whining. Nothing constructive about whining. If you have a problem, explain it without the "bitchy barn manager" attitude and let folks try to give you alternative solutions.

I see lots of folks on the internet that need to do the work for one week at the barn they board at. Including repairs, hearing the complaints and paying the bills. Then perhaps a person who bought a halter that looks very much like yours and really thought it was theirs - won't seem like such a terrible person.
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I appreciate you trying to give the other side of the story, but you don't know my barn manager and to be honest you sound nothing like her. I'm not having a "disagreement" with her. I recently became friends with someone at the barn who the manager doesn't like (solely because this woman bought a horse she did not approve of - I won't comment on that because it's not my issue). Because I'm now friendly with the woman she doesn't like, the barn manager spent the weekend calling all my friends' mothers to tell them their daughters should steer clear of me at all costs. This is a woman for whom I work thirty hours a week for nothing, a woman who I have never had a single argument with. And no, there isn't more to this story.
I have taken calm, logical measures and I will be calling the manager and addressing this with her today. This post was just a way of venting and an attempt to find comfort after feeling very upset and very betrayed.

ETA: I'd also like to add that my manager does none of the physical side of the work. She is a strictly paperwork (and petty drama) worker.

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Simple question- if you are so unhappy and this certainly sounds like you haven't been happy for a while, why don't you move your horse?
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post #10 of 57 Old 05-18-2009, 03:51 PM Thread Starter
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I'm considering it. I have an appointment to go look at a new barn next weekend.

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