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post #41 of 57 Old 06-02-2009, 09:52 PM Thread Starter
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Wow, this thread got big while I was gone!

I need to clear a few things up. I have no problem with rules. I have no problem with discipline. But what I DO have a problem with is malicious gossip, manipulation, and rules that seem to have no real reason. For example, we are only allowed to use black, hunter green, or blue polo wraps at our barn. Fine. But I was told on Friday that my blue polo wraps (that I've had since February) are the wrong shade, and that I'm forbidden to use them. I know several people (on the BM's good side) who have and use the exact same polo wraps. Just...silly things like that. I also have it from a number of reliable sources that my BM has been saying horrible things about both me and my horse, aside from the current issue.

ETA: Oh, and thanks to those of you who shared BM horror stories :) definitely had me chuckling.

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post #42 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 07:54 AM
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what color polo wraps??? wow control freak, run far far away
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post #43 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 10:53 AM
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I didn't read all of the replys, but I'm on the opposite side, I'm the "evil BM". I have a small barn, do a few lessons and just a couple boarders. Its much cheaper than other barns in the area, and for this, I just ask them to clean up after themselves. I do the feedings and stall work myself.

There is a group of teen queens at my barn that think the world is out to get them and that I am unreasonable and unfair for asking them to pick up their garbage that they leave all over the barn. To ask them to turn off lights when they leave and shut the feed and tack room doors is just completely outrageous for me to expect. I told one that was leasing my one of my horses that her behavior would lead to her losing the lease, when I followed through with my threat and told her her lease was ending at the end of the month that "was so not fair, she didn't even do anything". I'm not in it for the money and I have better things to do than pick up after drama queens that can't make it to the garbage can 15 feet away. I know some pretty nasty BMs too, and have seen some pretty psycho boarders. It goes both ways. I'm not perfect by any means, I'm pretty leniant, but take advantage of that and you lose all privilages.
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post #44 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 11:12 AM
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I don't think that there has to be only two sides. I don't think there is evil barn manager and nice barn manager or evil boarder good boarder. Every person and every place is different. I think putting teen queens in their place is perfectly fine and its certainly your right to terminate a lease. However to tell someone what color polos they can use,come on!

My barn owner is very nice but she has certain things that really bug her and I totally understand that. My mom has a great barn too but her BO has some quirks..... However I am sure there are some really wackos out there, I have met a few. Horse people tend to be quirky anyway, but some are just down right strange.
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post #45 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 01:20 PM
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This thread brings back so many memories!

I worked at a stable that bred friesians but also doubled as a boarding facility. A friend of mine kept her horse there and I would frequently lend her a hand when needed as my duties were usually finished by the time she came to ride. Basically the barn owners were obligated to feed, turnout, clean stalls, and keep the farm tidy. My friend came to ride one afternoon but forgot she had to be picked up early. I was done all my work and was sitting down for my scheduled lunch break. She came up to me and asked if I would mind putting her horse away because her dad was waiting. I said sure, no problem. The horse was sweaty and definately needed a bath and cooler.

Well the barn owner (in my opinion, a snobby british lady) came into the barn and yelled "What do you think you are doing? This is not YOUR horse!" I explained the situation and she replied "Well you work for ME not HER, turn that horse outside immediately and go on your break!". I could do nothing but listen. On my way back from turning the horse out I called my friend and explained what happened. Needless to say her father wasnt impressed and seeing as I was on my lunch break, meaning my own time, there really was no real issue.

My friend called the barn owner and about a 1/2 hour later, the horse had a cooler on. After that things went down hill. The horses stall was never "properly" cleaned. He got less hay than what he was originally getting. Also a few items such as a crop, riding socks, riding gloves, saddle pad and bit went missing from her locker (they have a strict rule about NO locks on the lockers ).

Within a week she had found a new barn to move her horse to. The barn owner tried telling her that this was not allowed and she would have to wait till the end of the month to move him. Funny thing is the contract basically says she is only required to pay out the month, not keep him there.

I soon after quit. I seemed to start getting the blame for little things. Like shavings that werent swept up, not enough hay in the hay bags, not enough shavings in the bin, doors/lights not closed. Lets just say they seemed to expect me to do all these things AFTER I was done work. A week later I had another job at a friend of the families barn. So much better haha

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post #46 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 04:43 PM
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I just read 5 pages of why Im glad my horse is in our back pasture!!! LOL.

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post #47 of 57 Old 06-03-2009, 06:28 PM
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Wow, you guys have some bad stories! I'm so lucky. This is my first time boarding and I've been at the place for 10 years. We have a great BO. We have had some craptacular boarders though. No doubt about that. Made me wonder if the BO ever thought, "Why did I get into this business again?"

We've had a lot of boarders move here from other facilities and after hearing their stories of the BO's (using boarders supplements for their own horses, not letting the horses in the turn out pasture per the contract agreement, taking boarder's tack and using them) - makes me grateful for having such a great BO. The one about BO's using boarder's supplements happens a lot apparently.

At our barn everyone uses everyone else's stuff but that's only after asking them and knowing it's okay to do so. If someone runs out of fly spray or whatever. You go find someone who has it and just replace whatever you use. Or if you borrow tack, you just clean it and put it back where you found it.
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post #48 of 57 Old 06-07-2009, 01:45 PM
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I used to be a BM. I boarded horses for years, and I'll tell you, it's not worth it. I'd have people expecting all kinds of unreasonable things from me, and expect it for free. It's hard work, and you get little pay in return.

After taking care of three horses that ended up having to be put down (owners mysteriously disappear when horses are old or infirm) finished it for me.

Now I just keep my own horses and I'm much happier :)
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post #49 of 57 Old 06-11-2009, 12:30 PM
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Geez... you had to have certain color polo wraps? And in a certain shade? Talk about anal and controlling. Are hunter green wraps more effective than purple ones somehow? I would wear different colors on all four legs just to make them mad. XD

I'll use whatever color polo wraps I WANT, thank you very much.
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I boarded horses at my farm for a couple of years, and I guess I just ended up with some goofy boarders. The first 3 weren't bad to start with - always paid on time, held up their share of the work, kept their special brand of grain in stock and monitored the levels of that on their own - great, great. I had it set up so everyone had a tack locker, and they had their own locks, and I had mine locked up seperate as well. There wasn't much of a problem to start with, but as time wore on, one of them decided I was picking on her horse. The ropes I left in the barn to be handy were dissapearing at an alarming rate as well. Now, I have a major pain of a mare that when she's feeling snotty to the other horses, I isolate her. period. When she gets over herself, she can play with the other horses again. Same goes for anyone else who is misbehaving. Well, I had a 3 month old foal that her horse had started picking on - big time. Not just nips here, I"m talking picking the baby up by the scruff - SO, he got isolated with a similar minded horse. They didn't pick on each other, and there was plenty of grass in the pasture, fresh water, shelter - you name it. She got ticked because he wasn't with my mare & foal. I explained to her why, and said I was sure they could run together again in a few days, a week maybe. Wasn't good enough. She was convinced I was pickin on him, and she gave me the threat 'well, if you don't make me happy, I'll leave!!!' I said as calmly as I ever could muster 'I guess if that's how you feel, you gotta do what you think is right, just like I have to do what I think is right to keep ALL the horses here safe healthy & happy'. She cut out not quite a month later while I was on vacation. Classy, huh? The last boarder I took in was slow to pay, and slow to keep her horse in their 'special grain'. I had no problem with 14 different grains for all the different horses, just they had to keep them in stock. Guess I was too accomodating, huh? AH well, won't do it again, at least not on a boarding only basis. I do board the horses I train, but no boarders just to be boarders. too much hassle.
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