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    06-13-2009, 01:26 PM
Barn Drama - that is what this is. People get hurt with barn drama. I wonder if our horses can pick up this tension and grief caused by how we treat each other. We owe it to our horses to treat each other as we would treat our own horses - with love, respect, and honor.

I am no expert, but here is my take: As in horses, with humans there are always reasons for behavior - usually the reasons come from places of hurt and sadness. If you feel you are able, try to talk to her with an open mind and open heart. Maybe you are projecting things that are not accurate. I have done that before - thought someone was rude when they were really not feeling well or they were just in a hurry. Tell her how you feel - it may end up in a valuable experience for you - OR NOT - Know this: it may end up terrible. If she is truly wrapped up in a world of stress and anger, you may be the target of that if you approach her. If that occurs, keep yourself emotionally safe and control your actions (maybe bit your tongue and pack your things). Either way, talking to her would give you answers. Only you can decide what you want to do. Keep us posted. Good luck - and thanks for the discussion!
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    07-17-2009, 11:36 AM
Okay I have a story that is still in the works!

My currrent barn manager, also my bosses mother, well, she's quite old at the moment she's 81! It started about 3 months ago when she decided that she and another boarder didnt like me any more, I don't do the work quick enough, I do it scruffily, and I lack all enthusiasm for the job. I cannot stick the job, I should go and get a job in an office or something because i'm not going to get far here. I am causing hazards by giving my horse a haynet (small holed, even a shetland pony couldnt get their hoof caught and mine is a welsh cob!), as he is going to break his leg in it one day. I neglect this other boarders horse apparently, even though the mornings he gets his haynet and waters changed, if she isnt going to be there till later, I skip his stable out as she has asked me to do. Im cruel because I put a rug on my horse when he was cold, and took the rug off the horse next to mine because she was warm, and the latest one is im not to have my stable signs up because their tacky, if I put them up again they are going to get burned.

I don't understand what had happened here! And I want to move my horse and get a job doing something AWAY from that yard.

Theres a story for you lot to laugh about
    07-18-2009, 11:21 AM
I took riding lessons at a boarding barn for years before I bought my first horse, from the barn manager. When I did get my horse, my family and I opted to board him there for a couple of months so that I could take lessons on him with my instructor in a familiar arena (for me), before we moved him to our farm. I was kind of a novelty there, almost all of the other boarders were BIG into the QH show industry, and I was the little girl with the braids and the mutt pony. When the BM was there life was good, but her daughter (about 5 years older than me) was also really into the showing. When the daughter started qualifying for major shows, the BM started traveling a lot, leaving people who my dad terms "the minions" in charge of the barn. That was when things went downhill.

Example: My pony was hard to catch. No problem for daily operation (we asked the BM if he was a problem, she said no), he would come in with the herd, but you couldn't walk out and get him without a fight. So, we just had the BM leave him in, then we went to the barn daily to exercise him. When the BM went to a show, she would tell whoever was to be in charge to leave my pony in. I went the extra mile to leave a note on his feed can, a note on his stall door, and a note rolled up in his halter ring, all saying "please leave me in my stall." The temp. Couldn't have removed him from the stall without encountering several reminders not to. Yep, Dad and I got to the barn just in time to see my pony's tail disappear into the pasture. Dad was frosted (half an hour's drive to the barn, and no horse), and the temp BM played stupid when we asked her about it.

We never left anything there except a halter and lead (which I made sure were horrendous colors, flourescent orange halter and rainbow lead). We never heard of anything being "messed with," but better safe than sorry. The actual BM was awesome, and put up with way more than she should have from certain boarders (as in, people several months behind on board, refusals to clean stalls, lights left on, electric buckets left on in the summer, I could go on and on... often all of these things from the same people). I helped out a lot with feeding and cleaning out some of the "problem" boarder's stalls after my pony was done, for the sake of the horses' health. I'm so glad to have my horses at home now.

I would love to operate my own boarding barn someday, but I would have to keep it small (like, I could handle the daily chores for every horse in there as if he were my own), have a rule like "the stall must be cleaned at least once a day. If you don't do it, I will and you will have $10 per day that I do it added to your bill," and "you miss your payment, your horse is demoted to pasture rent only until you're back up to date." Definitely a contractual agreement. Absolutely.

Oh, to the OP, that polo wrap thing is aweful! How are you supposed to find yours in the tack room? Jeez...

I would be out of there in a heartbeat, if at all possible.

Sorry, Y'all, for the novel.
    07-18-2009, 11:58 AM
I had some boarder at my barn try and tell me I can't feed my horse treats because the horses are on a feeding schedule and if I feed her treats I will mess up her feeding times oh did I put that little lady in her place no one tells me what to feed my horse well except for the vet of course lol people are so nosey at the barn I even showed up there one day and some girl was riding my horse OH DID CRAP HIT THE FAN at the time my horse was supposed to be in stall rest because she was hit by a car on a trail ride and wasn't suppose to be out of her stall so ya people are messed up oh and I had my saddle stolen a bridle a halter
    07-18-2009, 12:44 PM
I hope I don't run into any of these problems at my barn. The BM is the instructor, as well. I have been taking lessons for some time with her. So I know her ins and outs. I bought a horse from her and am now boarding him there. So, right now all is good.

I think I would flip out if someone other than my BM/instructor was riding him. I would have a mini stroke then grow horns, a tail, and construct a pitch fork in my hand. one wants to mess with me when I'm mad. You better get out of the way.
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    07-18-2009, 02:23 PM
Originally Posted by angie22d    
i even showed up there one day and some girl was riding my horse OH DID CRAP HIT THE FAN at the time my horse was supposed to be in stall rest because she was hit by a car on a trail ride and wasn't suppose to be out of her stall

Man! What the heck?!? Why on earth would anybody do that??? Aren't there still anti horse-theft laws if you dig deep enough? I'll bet that qualifies. Did your horse recover, anyway?

People can be just insane.
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    09-03-2009, 07:01 AM
Originally Posted by JadedEyes    

I think I would flip out if someone other than my BM/instructor was riding him. I would have a mini stroke then grow horns, a tail, and construct a pitch fork in my hand. one wants to mess with me when I'm mad. You better get out of the way.
exactly. Beware a woman's wrath especially if you get between her and her horse
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