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post #51 of 56 Old 10-01-2010, 09:26 AM
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Just my $0.02:

Starline - It's fine to ask for help on how to handle a situation professionally. I honestly believe this is what you are trying to do, BUT you should find another avenue for this. Ask your husband, mom, dad, friend...someone you confide in.

Don't get me wrong...its good to have outside opinions and I love everyone on this board, BUT when it comes down to it, I am not going to trust someone on the INTERNET with advice with my company.

Its YOUR company (and possibly your husbands or other family members) so ultimately YOU need to make the calls, not people on the internet.

If you have a boarder that you think is "crazy", then have a talk with them. If nothing positive comes from the talk, then its time for them to find another barn. Plain and simple.

Business is business and should be handled accordingly.

It seems to me that YOU are the source of the drama, not the boarders. Its time to grow up a little and have adult conversations with the people that you think are causing problems.

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post #52 of 56 Old 10-01-2010, 10:16 AM
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In Starline's defense, I'm sure everyone will agree when I say horse boarding is a business like no other :/ Yes, there are professional ways to handle things, but I'll be the first to say it would be fantastic to have a "BO only", proof of Barn Ownership forum somewhere where you can post your rants/vents/questions to people who understand and have "been there, done that" experience... in a completely anonymous way. Not realistic, I know :/ So I generally try to watch what I post unless the bridge has already been burned, as in the instance with boarders who left their horses. Like, have the registration include a link to your business .com, but do not have to post that information?

I'll be the first to say that I'm not going to run to the farm down the street to go "WTF? Why did so and so do this, or blahblahblah... What are your thoughts?" as of course, that IS competition (as much as we like the people, haha). Having people far removed but in similar situations is helpful.

When we had to pursue lien laws for horses left without board for huge amounts of back board, it would have been fantastic to have an avenue in which to discuss it which is why I made the post about agisters liens on here. Other than write-ups by attorneys who leave you hanging so you need to consult with them to get every last bit of detail, there really was nothing definitive by way of "I had to do this, here is what I did..." By the way, not too many people have responded to that post, haha :/ ah well, I tried, haha. It would be great to get ideas as to what others in your situation would do, especially in technical areas where you might not know what you don't know, and the more input, the more you can analyze (although you have to be careful to sift through and sort out junk/troll/likes to hear self talk from good advice).

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post #53 of 56 Old 10-01-2010, 10:23 AM
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Leona - I agree that it would be helpful to have other opinions on different situations that BOs run into. Defintely.

I just think that some BOs are better at how they come across on the internet. Unfortunately when you use the internet as a source, you have to be careful how you word what you write. It will usually be taken the wrong way by a few people unless you are very careful.

If it were me, I would probably lurk and find a few members here that were BOs not in my area. I would then PM them to get their opinion about an issue I was running into and see if they could offer up some advice.

This way you keep it off the public forum, but you are still benefitting from someone's advice who you are not in direct competition with :)

Im sure its easier said than done in some instances though.
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post #54 of 56 Old 10-01-2010, 10:31 AM
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leona, a little discretion goes a very long way, though.

I do not see a barn owner running down to the nearest boarding barn and asking a question either.

I also can not imagine a single barn owner that does not have any friends any where that know nothing about horses. A PM or email to those friends is far more appropriate when the question is delicate.

Asking about liens and such is very different than venting about your horrible boarders or the thing your boarder did and then proclaiming you do not talk about your boarders.

There are lots of barn owners that post and ask questions who do not keep a screen name and do not post enough information to make their ID obvious.
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post #55 of 56 Old 10-01-2010, 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind View Post
leona, a little discretion goes a very long way, though.
I very much agree! And as the person above you posted, I personally have watched the forum and PMed a few and said "Hey, great contact... lets stay in touch via PM". I just wanted to offer Starline a bit of a back-up, and let her know she isn't the ONLY one who wants to vent/rant/wtf!?!?! sometimes, especially as a person in a similar position! :)

Edit: I am constantly aware that what I may say on here might get back to me (I've been able to figure out people I know on here, although I choose to not say anything/disclose it). As such, I try to be careful, and even sometimes while I think I may have been as careful as possible in not revealing TOO much detail about any particular situation, I still go back and look (hence why nearly everything I post has an "edit" on it, haha).

PS: hehe, "lurking" :) love it!

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post #56 of 56 Old 10-02-2010, 10:25 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for worrying about what my potential boarders might think by reading my posts, I greatly appreciate everyone's input.

I would love if there were more stable management websites and forums. I do frequent but it is very slow moving. However, I like to post on HF because I want the opinion of other "would-be boarders" as well because that is ultimately who I'm trying to accommodate.

A little about me.... I'm overly honest and try to treat people fairly and as I would want to be treated. However when I feel wronged, I'm quick to form an opinion and confront the situation which isn't exactly a great idea from a business stand point. I do talk to my husband and my family but they are easily steamrolled and pushed around and I'm the opposite. I want to find a happy medium, not just give in so I frequently poll people in forums. Sometimes, I may have already made a decision but I ask anyway because I'm looking for one of those magical politically correct sentences that get your point across in a professional and respectful way instead of coming off witchy.

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