So frustrated. :/
Well, I've finally found a horse that I had planned on buying. Rode her twice, love her. A green (but solid trail horse, just green with arena work) chestnut tb mare that's built like a tank.
So, here's why it's in the section. My friend's been planning on moving his horses home to his house and keeping them in his own barn, and we've been talking about it for the past year or so, going to clean up the pasture, walking the fence, pricing supplies at the store, etc. I was helping him do basically everything, we were gonna split round pen costs and be the only two at the barn until he built a second one. His mum has known for awhile that I planned on bringing the horse I buy there and what we were doing including payment, pricing, help, board, etc.
Sounds great, huh? I was suppose to pay $100 a month, plus buy my own hay. Not bad at all, and we were both happy with it. We love riding together, our riding abilities are just about the same, and rather good for our ages. The only difference we have is what we plan on feeding, and that's about it.
As I said, his mum has known about all of this. As soon as she found out I planned on buying this horse in October/early December she decided to tell him she doesn't want me on the property and that he's not allowed to let me board my horse there. According to their "talk", she's upset about when I brought my friend to the barn we're currently boarding at/leasing from. She has it in her mind that I must have went behind my mum's back and lied to her because of the fact that the friend I brought isn't our age. I told our BO that I was coming with my friend that over 18 since I wanted to show him the horse I was riding/training. Apparently BO assumed that it was a female friend from school, which it was not. She said it was fine after I texted her that I was coming out, so I went out. I could understand her being a little put off because thefact that she lives on property and that everything her and her boarders have are there. If she would've asked, I would've went into further detail about who exactly it was, but I knew he wasn't going to come back and steal anything (let alone be able to find his way back without me). My friend's mum also assumes that I must have had sex or did something at the barn (no, not really..I'm actually really offended about that).
But so, I now have nowhere to keep the horse I planned on buying, and I'm extremely frustrated. Why would his mum feel the need to wait until I make plans to buy a horse and actual set up the buy to say I couldn't board there? I don't know what to do now. The seller pretty much needs the horse gone, I really want the horse, and I've already said I would buy her. So I either need to find a place to board that is affordable, call the seller and let her know what happened and why I can't buy the horse anymore, or..well, those are my only options. I'm going to look into other affordable boarding stables, and hopefully I can find one before the end of the month that isn't ages away. I only want pasture board with hay, so I don't want a fancy barn with a ton of stalls and a bunch of amenities. I'm hoping that my only wanting that will be easier to find or discuss arrangements with barns, but I'm struggling with connections currently. I've only been to the barn I'm currently at, and she's closing at the end of the month (still be able to lease though). I'm going to try and talk to her about it and see if she knows anyone/anywhere or if she'd talk to my friend's mum and vouch for me. I'm a good barn-goer. I always clean up, I always ask if I can bring someone out, I always double check stalls/gates/latches/doors/etc. I'm just so frustrated she waited so long to say that there's no way she'd let me stay there with a horse. She knew the plans, so what was the point in scrambling them all up pretty much last minute? :/
I'm not really sure what I plan on getting out of this post, but think it was basically to just get it out, ya know? I can't talk to my daddy anymore since he died (I was closest with him), I don't have a relationship with my mum (not even half decent), and most of my friend's have no clue what I'm talking about. So I'm at a loss of what to do, I guess. Hope it was atleast understandable? Heh
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