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        08-15-2011, 12:29 PM
      #11
    Weanling
    Well I spoke to the BO. She said she had told the child not to ride the scooter unless no horses were in the aisle, that she was glad no one got hurt and maybe being scared taught the child a lesson...

    I just don't know what to think.
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        08-15-2011, 01:17 PM
      #12
    Weanling
    Yikes! Yes - an accident waiting to happen, for sure!

    I know you spoke to the BO/parent already...but if you can casually slip it inot conversation - it might be a good idea to mention the BO's liability in the event a child or a horse gets injured.

    "Oh I'm so glad your little girl was OK. I remember hearing a story about a little kid being kicked in the face at a barn. Poor little thing - she was scarred for life! And then the family sued the pants off the barn owners and they actually had to had to close the business and sell their house to just pay the damages! It was terrible! I guess it just shows how lucky we are. It's so great that didn't happen here..."
         
        08-15-2011, 01:34 PM
      #13
    mls
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Dresden    
    Well I spoke to the BO. She said she had told the child not to ride the scooter unless no horses were in the aisle, that she was glad no one got hurt and maybe being scared taught the child a lesson...

    I just don't know what to think.
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    My guess is you don't feel the BO was as tough with the kid in the situation as you would of liked her to be.

    As a BO myself - I have to take what I did not see with a grain of salt. Believe it or not - people don't always tell the truth or at least the whole truth. You stated your horse reared and slipped 'several times'. Yet you were in the tack room? Can you see where I am going with this?

    My suggestion - as it is to my boarders - have all of your items ready before you secure your horse in the cross tie. We have saddle racks and bridle hooks in the alley. Plenty of room to place a tote of grooming supplies. That way you are there 100% of the time to keep an eye on the horse. No pulling, no pawing, no striking, kicking, or urinating in the alley. All of the things the horses like to do as soon as they are not being watched.

    As far as the four year old though - MY rule is no unattended child under 12. Liability insurance is expensive.
         
        08-15-2011, 01:49 PM
      #14
    Weanling
    Yes. The BOs teenage daughters told me he slipped several times. I could hear a ruckus but not see it. I did see him rear at least twice as I stepped out.

    We cannot leave our supplies in the aisle as the same small child takes them and relocates them. The BO asked me not to ready my things first when the child is there as I used to do so.

    I don't think she should've been harder on the child. The kid was already scared to death! Yelling or whatever wouldn't have helped anything. I'm more concerned about the supervision or lack thereof. I don't want the child to get hurt. I guess I expected more concern for the kid is all. I didn't even mention my horse slipping to the BO. I just asked her if the child was okay, explained briefly what happened and noted I was concerned that she could have been seriously hurt particularly if it had been a horse who didn't calm down as easily as mine does.

    I like the BO a lot and I adore the child. I honestly meant I don't know what to think. Not sarcastic, I genuinely have no frame of reference for this sort of thing. Her response wasn't entirely dismissive nor entirely concerned about her kid. I don't even know what an appropriate response from a parent would be.
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        08-15-2011, 02:05 PM
      #15
    mls
    Trained
    It sounds as though there are several issues with the child. Do other boarders have the same problems?

    Where is the BO when she drops off her kids?
         
        08-15-2011, 02:29 PM
      #16
    Weanling
    Yes they do and honestly I have no idea where the BO goes. I've heard several other boarders complain. I don't so much have complaints as concerns. There are other issues with the kid that I haven't even bothered to get into here as they aren't relevant. She is a cute and charming child for all her out of controlness :)

    Some boarders who've been around awhile even take it upon themselves to tell the child 'no' or get firm with her. I do not know them well enough to be comfortable although I did once yell "get out of the way" as I watched 2 horses get into a kicking match right near her right before I scooped her up and moved her out of harms way. I won't yell at the child but I will do anything I can to keep her safe.

    I've calmed down and am not as much upset as worried. I don't have kids but I can't imagine leaving my 4 yr old alone (or with teenage supervision) at a barn for hours on end. When this happened Saturday around 6:30pm, the girls had all been there since at least 10 am alone.

    I don't really blame the girls. They are teenagers and as such don't always keep a close eye on the little one.

    I don't even know what sort of resolution I want. I know she isn't suddenly going to start supervising the kid so I may as well just suck it up and do what little I can to keep her safe when I am there.
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        08-15-2011, 02:39 PM
      #17
    Banned
    It sounds like the problem is more the lack of supervision by the teenagers regarding their little sister than the little kid.

    If you want to stay there I would make a point of taking little girl to her sisters every time you find her not being visually supervised by them and say, "Suzy must have wondered off again, though you might want her closer to you so she is safe".


    You say the teenagers were right there seeing the commotion while the little one was riding in the aisle? If the teens were there why not get your stuff out? It is not like the kid is alone.
         
        08-15-2011, 04:28 PM
      #18
    Weanling
    They didn't stop her from riding her scooter directly at my horse... do you think they'd have stopped her from wandering off with my stuff?

    I think I am going to have to make sure my horse isn't ever unsupervised when she is there particularly when her mom isn't present. I'm not quite sure how I will work that out yet. I really don't want my horse to be the one that hurts her.
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        08-15-2011, 04:48 PM
      #19
    mls
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Dresden    
    I think I am going to have to make sure my horse isn't ever unsupervised when she is there particularly when her mom isn't present. I'm not quite sure how I will work that out yet. I really don't want my horse to be the one that hurts her.
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    It's a liability.

    If she were to get hurt, there is the chance the mother's insurance company would come after you. I would check your boarding contract to see if you are covered.

    That is why our agent had us add the "One adult per child under 12" provision.
         
        08-16-2011, 07:05 AM
      #20
    Yearling
    If I was in your shoes, I'd start thinking about finding a new boarding barn if there was anything decent in the area. It might be a fantastic barn in every other respect but I go to the barn to chill out and have fun. Feeling like I have to keep an eye on someone else's poorly supervised child so the kid doesn't get under the hooves of my horse or any horse, really, would make the barn stressful. It's one of those things that would definitely start driving me bananas after a while. From your posts, it sounds as if this kid causes quite a few issues at the barn (nicking people's grooming stuff? Really? And all mom does is tell you not to leave it out?), is a bit of a safety hazard, and the mother is not bothered. I've been at a lot of boarding stables and in my experience, people run their barns the way they want to run them, however weirdly at times, and if it drives you and/or your horse nuts for whatever reason, usually the best thing to do is leave.
         

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