Alwaysbehind's is another post worth reading and re-reading a few times.
Stakie, you now need to get past your anger and disappointment and move on. I suggest you take some time to write down the issues that need to be formalized in a contract and make an appointment to create a clearer contract with the barn owner. The owner may have limited experience with boarders as well and so this would be an exercise that benefits both of you. Here are some of the things that should be addressed in the contract:
- where and how long your horse is turned out
- how many horses (max) and (min) will your horse be turned out with
- what type of feed and how much is to be provided by and fed by the barn owner ( consider grain, supplements, mineral blocks, etc)
- blanketing, fly mask, bandage service
- temporary access to stalls, barn, wash areas etc.
- veterninary care (who barn owner calls in an emergency (ie you or vet first) and cost of bandaging or additional vet care if needed)
- farrier service ( does the barn owner hold your horse?)
- where you can store your tack / place your own tack box, extra food, treats, etc.
- where / when you can ride on the property
- hours - some owners don't want people coming / going early or late
- cancellation conditions of the contract ( do you have to give 1 month's notice or pay up front one month?)
I am sure I left out a few items, but I think these are all important. I have also had each of these items addressed in every boarding contract I have ever had. The barn owner may also have a few items to add. Remember, you are paying for access and services on someone else's property. You must be crystal clear in writing what you are paying for. If it isn't written down, you cannot assume you are entitled to a service or privilege.
Once you have this worked out you then need to focus on building a good and positive relationship with the barn owner. If handled well, this will be an opportunity to do just that.
Stakie, I think you need to breath and relax. Insisting you were intentionally deceived will make it so you can never be comfortable at this barn.
Livestoride made a truly wonderful post. Re-read it again and again.
No one lied to you. You and the barn owner simply have different views on what something means.
It was your job, as the person looking for some place to keep their horse, to make sure you and the barn owner are on the same page.
Your barn owner thinks 'having a buddy' means being able to see other horses. I am fine with this definition. If I was looking for a boarding place and my horse having another horse in the pasture at all times was important to me I would make sure I spell out just that. Not simply say I want my horse to have a buddy.