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post #1 of 5 Old 01-26-2010, 01:19 PM Thread Starter
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They're so unorganized ..

So I've got a loan horse at a yard and I couldn't be happier with her (despite her mood swings - but that's mares for you! ).

Only problem is, the people that run it all are very unorganized. It seems my responsibilities are changing constantly and (as a teen) not all of them seem to be realistic for me. My family are not at all horsey and don't particularlly want to be invloved and I made this clear right from the start. But sadly things are becoming more stressful and riding just doesn't have the same pleasure attatched to it as before because of everything else . This is awful because I love my horsey and don't want things to end.

My mum suggested that I talk to them and set some ground rules as to what I can and can't do - obviously it would be done tactfully! But I don't want to offend anyone because I think it could quite possibly be taken in the wrong way and for obvious reasons, I want to stay on good terms with them. However, I think it should be brought to their notice that they're being unreasonable.

It's not just the jobs, I haven't been into riding that long and am simply not experienced enough to deal with situations involving the horses that I would consider out of the ordinary. (i.e. When they are particularly frisky or hungry [they are very bad when expecting food]) There have been times where I've felt quite intimidated by them, despite that fact that I was told over and over that I was ready to take on my own horse.

So what do I do? Are all riding schools this stressy? Did everyone go through this in the beginning? I'd very much appreciate some concolidation in my time of need!

P.S. Sorry if this wasn't the right place to post, I wasn't sure.
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post #2 of 5 Old 01-26-2010, 09:46 PM
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Oh dear! :( This doesn't sound too good. I've been riding at the same lesson barn for my whole life- so I know the owners very well. I understand with the busyness of stables that things get overlooked, but I always put my safety before the need to prove myself. Definitley talk with them and make sure they realize exactly what you are and are not comfortable with. If they still insist that you do jobs that you aren't ready for, perhaps it's time to find a new place?
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post #3 of 5 Old 01-26-2010, 09:50 PM
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Agreed ^^^

Your safety should always come first and it should for them as well. Maybe with the things you are uncomfortable with ask them if it would be possible for someone to do it along side you a couple times until you feel more comfortable. If they are offended by you simply saying you are uncomfortable, I agree, it might be time to look elsewhere.
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post #4 of 5 Old 01-26-2010, 10:02 PM
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Wow, and how miserable and stressful for you. But, if you're constantly put in situations that you don't feel comfortable or secure handling them, yes, it's absolutely time to find another place. Of course have the conversation your parents are recommending to take some of the stress off short term, but a place that would put you in this situation is not a good place to be long term.

It's wonderful that you've found a suitable horse to lease, but if the owners of the horse won't move her, well, better a less suitable horse at a safe, organized facility than a more suitable horse at a unsafe place.
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post #5 of 5 Old 02-02-2010, 02:20 PM Thread Starter
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Now I feel sad, I really love it there it's just so much stress. Some parts are good ...
I'm on my own alot which I like. At other places it seems really busy and I appreciate having acres of land and fresh air to myself. I have friends there too and I often I get free lessons.
I think what I will do is write them a long letter about how I'm feeling about everything.
I'm only loaning for a year so maybe I will just try and take it all in my stride and just take it as it comes. After all, it's all just good experience.
Next year maybe I will go back to riding at the weekends while I take my GCSEs. It is alot of work!
I'll try somewhere new and see how I like it, although my riding school is soooo very cheap compared to other places.
So what do you think of that plan guys? I'll let you know how it works out x
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