I am not sure if this is the appropriate section, but it is the closest one I could pick out.
Like many of you I am a horse crazy woman married to a man that could care less about the "beasts" as he calls them. I think the best way to put him to sleep is by talking about plans to put up fences, arenas, and barns. Due to this fact I do all the planning and research of how to build things and budget for what I want.
I do a lot of reading about fence building, structural loads, and general construction. I now feel fairly knowledgeable about such things even though I may not have done a lot of them practically. There are 2 farm supply places near my location and I frequent these places lot. When I go I usually know exactly what I want. Here steps in the good old boy. Time after time, I get these looks as if I don't know what I am talking about. Sometimes I will receive condescending advice, it is this that makes me really mad.
For example, the other day I was pricing out some fence post for the corner posts of the arena I am building. All I asked was for the price on round fence posts and what sizes they have in stock. First he asked, "You building a fence?!" Yes (is this unusually that a person asking for fence posts to be building a fence?) Then I told him that I am looking for some larger 7-10 inch posts for corners and asked what they had in that range. His reply, "You know you have to put those 2 feet in the ground with concrete?" Yes,
of course I know that. At this point I still have not found out what they have or how much they are. He then goes on to give me advice on barbed wire to purchase, (no I did not say anything to him about barbed wire, I guess he just assumed that I would be using it). Eventually I got a little more demanding in my voice and asked again for the price of the corner posts they had in stock. He acted all put out and gave me the price, which I was kinda happy to find out was a good $5 over the other store, so I told him so.
Has anyone else experienced this? At the time I was on my way to work (I teach college mathematics) and was dressed up a bit by farm store standards. I have found that if I go in my barn cloths then I get less of this, but I never feel like I am treated with respect. In general if there is a girl working I will try to talk to her, but sometimes they just turn around and give me back to the good old boy. My husband says that I am just oversensitive to it and should not get mad.