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    06-09-2011, 10:00 AM
  #1
Weanling
Those Good Old Boys

I am not sure if this is the appropriate section, but it is the closest one I could pick out.

Like many of you I am a horse crazy woman married to a man that could care less about the "beasts" as he calls them. I think the best way to put him to sleep is by talking about plans to put up fences, arenas, and barns. Due to this fact I do all the planning and research of how to build things and budget for what I want.

I do a lot of reading about fence building, structural loads, and general construction. I now feel fairly knowledgeable about such things even though I may not have done a lot of them practically. There are 2 farm supply places near my location and I frequent these places lot. When I go I usually know exactly what I want. Here steps in the good old boy. Time after time, I get these looks as if I don't know what I am talking about. Sometimes I will receive condescending advice, it is this that makes me really mad.

For example, the other day I was pricing out some fence post for the corner posts of the arena I am building. All I asked was for the price on round fence posts and what sizes they have in stock. First he asked, "You building a fence?!" Yes (is this unusually that a person asking for fence posts to be building a fence?) Then I told him that I am looking for some larger 7-10 inch posts for corners and asked what they had in that range. His reply, "You know you have to put those 2 feet in the ground with concrete?" Yes, of course I know that. At this point I still have not found out what they have or how much they are. He then goes on to give me advice on barbed wire to purchase, (no I did not say anything to him about barbed wire, I guess he just assumed that I would be using it). Eventually I got a little more demanding in my voice and asked again for the price of the corner posts they had in stock. He acted all put out and gave me the price, which I was kinda happy to find out was a good $5 over the other store, so I told him so.

Has anyone else experienced this? At the time I was on my way to work (I teach college mathematics) and was dressed up a bit by farm store standards. I have found that if I go in my barn cloths then I get less of this, but I never feel like I am treated with respect. In general if there is a girl working I will try to talk to her, but sometimes they just turn around and give me back to the good old boy. My husband says that I am just oversensitive to it and should not get mad.
     
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    06-09-2011, 10:06 AM
  #2
Showing
Depends on where you live, Crosby.

I live in the Good Ole Boy, Redneckville, backwoods area of Virginia where men are men, and women generally stay at home in the single wide and pop out babies.

It's been an uphill struggle for me the past 6 years, since it's just assumed that a 'purty little thang' like me could never put up fencing, own and care for horses, work for a living, or -gasp!- afford a mortgage on my own.

People are either trying to set me up with the grizzled old bachelor down the road, or the grizzled old bachelors at the farm stores think I'm just dying for their attention and help. Um, no.

Your husband's a man, so of course doesn't see things the way you do. Believe me, the prejudice is out there.
     
    06-09-2011, 11:29 AM
  #3
Started
Wow! I guess I'm truly blessed to have a husband who has built me a barn with adjoining tackroom, an arena and a washrack! Next thing on the list is to get rid of the barbed wire cross fence. He even rides with me on occasion.

Dont' let the bubbas get you down, just make sure you talk slowly and in small words! LOL
     
    06-09-2011, 12:39 PM
  #4
Foal
It's been an uphill struggle for me the past 6 years, since it's just assumed that a 'purty little thang' like me could never put up fencing, own and care for horses, work for a living, or -gasp!- afford a mortgage on my own.



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Stuff like that makes me want to pull a Mallory Knox(Natural Born Killers movie) And say sweetly"Are you flirting with me?" then proceed to kick the crap out of them in the middle of the store(or where ever)
     
    06-09-2011, 01:13 PM
  #5
Weanling
Speedracer, I live in the rural midwest and farm stores around here seem to be overflowing.
It is either a good old boy, some young kid that just started work there and can't even check you out let alone answer your questions, or the fore-mentioned girls. I did just find out from my neighbor that his grandson just started to work at one (my preferred) of the farm stores. Maybe I will just go in any will only talk to him. He is a smart kid and grown up working along side my neighbor (who, by the way, is building part of said arena) and knows better then to treat me like just a girl .

I am excited to have hay season starting so that I can start to buy my hay from my favorite hay guy. He not only has great hay, but does not ask the classic, "Where is your husband?" When I show up to get a load of hay by myself. First it is rude to assume I have a husband, second their my horses so why would my husband come buy hay? In fact, the one time I did send my husband to pick up hay he ended up paying this years hay prices to last years hay that I ended up throwing half of it out.
     
    06-09-2011, 01:21 PM
  #6
Started
I catch a lot of grief in my local farm stores because they are mostly old farmers who think women belong in the kitchen. I'll walk in there and ask for something and I'll usually get a "Where's your daddy, little girl?" response that pisses me off.

Not only with horses, but when I go in our archery/gun shop the guy that works there thinks I am clueless with weapons even though I CLEARLY outshot him when he challenged me to a little shooting competition.

Oh yeah, and when I take my car to the mechanic for something they might as well think I am a walking statue. They'll try to tell me ten different things are wrong with my car, and I know better. I usually end up changing my own oil or getting my brother (who is VEERRRYYY car savvy) to fix whatever is wrong with it.

I could rant on all day about how I do not like being treated like some fragile lil lady.
     
    06-09-2011, 01:27 PM
  #7
Showing
Well, there is an up side to it, too. I rarely have to load my truck at the feed store, and any time a woman is stopped by the side of the road, there will always be 3 or 4 giant pickemup trucks with men in 'em who are willing to stop and help her out.

There are several auto repair places that I frequent that don't try to give me the runaround, and I've found that people around here tend to be honest and not try to rip you off. Probably because they're all related, and it would get back to their mommas if they were dishonest!
     
    06-09-2011, 01:30 PM
  #8
Started
Lol. The only way I know to use guys to my advantage is when I get pulled over for a speeding ticket I just start crying outrageously, and I usually get off of the hook. Except that one darn cop knows my family, so he gave me one anyways. Arrrgghh.
     
    06-09-2011, 01:57 PM
  #9
mls
Trained
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Originally Posted by back in the crosby again    

Has anyone else experienced this? At the time I was on my way to work (I teach college mathematics) and was dressed up a bit by farm store standards. I have found that if I go in my barn cloths then I get less of this, but I never feel like I am treated with respect. In general if there is a girl working I will try to talk to her, but sometimes they just turn around and give me back to the good old boy. My husband says that I am just oversensitive to it and should not get mad.
Girl? Sorry - could not resist. I am see 'girls' being patronized due to age.

I get a lot of flack due to my size. No way a tiny person like you can . . .

Oh yeah - watch me !
     
    06-09-2011, 03:04 PM
  #10
Yearling
Yes, I hate this! I don't get it from my hay guy, since I am the one who called, so I am the one who showed up. :) But when buying feed, or especially when there is something wrong with my car (BTW I am a car fanatic, and could teach most of them a thing or two), ugh! The guys at the feed store are really nice, but I always get "Are you sure you've got that ma'am?" Umm, yes... who do you think is going to be at the barn unloading it?!

I am lucky in the sense that although my hubby isnt a horse guy, he doesnt mind coming with me to the feed store, to tractor supply, to get hay, etc. He even built me a nice sturdy mounting block for our anniversary! But I do dislike men thinking women don't know anything.
     

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