A better word might have been 'kinder' or 'hospitable'.
You know, like NOT calling your boarders '******ed' when they're annoying you. 'Difficult' might have been a better choice of words.
Starline, you're the one who comes across as a brass plated, only in it for the money, type of BO I'd run away from. You might not actually BE like that, but it's certainly the perception you give. So if people are getting offended by what you post, it's most likely because they've already formed a less than flattering opinion of you based on your own words.
You come off as an entitled princess who thinks others are less important, and far less intelligent than yourself.
To say something is "******ed" is a common expression for many things that are not actually "******ed". I didn't think I had to explain that. It's something I call my husband at least once a week especially when he makes me watch southpark lol. That fact that I have to explain that to the people on horseforum who use the word "******ed" and the like, to describe each other is beyond me!