^^ I think I know what she's gettin at. I started from scratch with my pony and we improved and learned together - we taught eachother. It took FOREVER to get where we are now in barrels, and it annoys the heck out of me when a girl who's parents had the extreme dough to buy her a top notch, already perfectly trained barrel horse so she can sit on it and let it do all the work, while I'm here on my little horse practicing my a$$ off just to get second to her
. I know how it feels.
In the long run, she has two problems you don't have: First, she doesn't have the stick-to-itivity that you developed by working hard. She's spoiled and eventually it'll be on to the next thing.
Second, you've developed some experience at training your horse — when there's a problem or your horse starts developing bad habits, you should have an idea either how to work through it or who to ask for advice. She doesn't have that on her side, either. If her horse develops bad habits, it's just going to drive her away.
There's a reason some cowgirls (Sherry Cervi, Angie Meadors, Charmayne James, Brittany Pozzi, Jill Moody) get back to the NFR year after year and others (the list is long, but undistinguished) show up a time or two than disappear. The former group is made of excellent and expert horsewomen; the latter group is ... well ... undistinguished folks who got a lucky horse. A couple of those barrel racers even won a WPRA championship or two ... then their lucky horse got old and lost a step and then they were gone.
Be a good horsewoman. Figure out what makes a good horse — it's more than speed, and if you don't believe me check out Lindsay's horse Martha or Sherry's horses Stingray and Dinero (and Dinero is also one heckuva roping horse).
Those other girls will fall away eventually ... and there you are.