OP, Good for you for taking this criticism and put it to GOOD use.
I understand the desire to have a fast horse and place and win. But...There's alot of prep work that goes into having a horse like that. We don't realize it until we train for it and think "OMG, I just want to RUNNNN" But we can't.
Lucky for me, I have 2 horses that I can ride at shows. My mom is letting me ride her finished speed horse, so I CAN run a horse and not be stuck training. Then there is my 6 year old that is over a year behind due to an injury. She is JUST NOW learning the patterns. It IS hard for me to just walk/trot a horse, but I do it because that's what HAS to be done.
Think of it this way...Your the slow one...FOR NOW. But in a year or two, YOU will be the one that has a calm, level headed horse, and runs the CORRECT way and LISTENS TO YOU and is your PARTNER. If you push too hard, too fast now, you will NOT have a partnership in the future. You will have a horse that fights you ever step of the way. And you will lose your patience and desire to ride because everything is a hassle and your horse doesn't listen.
Trust me, I have been there. I lost my desire to show after I sold my speed pony and only had a half-way trained speed horse as my backup.
I'm just now getting back into the game (the past 2 years) and it is **** HARD to be the one just trotting the patterns at shows. But, it's what my girl needs. I know for a fact next season, she'll be ready to pick up speed, and in 2 years, we WILL be winning.
It's well worth the wait to create a partnership with your horse and win together when the time is right.
You absolutely can go to a show and pick out the REAL riders and not the wanna-be's. The real riders care for their horses, down to the tiniest details. Don't follow the wanna-be's, you'll just pick up bad habits along the way and do nothing good for your horse.
Like Beau said, follow YOUR game plan. You'll be much better off in the end.
"The greatest pleasure of a dog is that you may make a fool of yourself with
him and not only will he not scold you, but he will make a fool of himself too."