Ok so what I've gathered so far is, to go one handed around the barrel, more of a pocket, and keep my hands lower. I will definitely try what you said about pulling the elbow back/up. I'm not to sure what her reaction will be as most of my direction comes from my legs but hey then I just don't have to pull as hard. If anyone has more ideas please let me know. I would love to know other opinions as while I "think" I know what I'm doing I will be the first person to admit I'm wrong.