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post #11 of 16 Old 07-29-2013, 03:03 AM Thread Starter
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Tiny... he is such a good boy. I told some friends at the barn today and while they understood, they all assured me they'd beat me up if I tried to sell Jax.

Tried the mare again today to break the "honeymoon" spell of that first ride, and it did. Our ride was good, but there are clear disconnects between me and this mare, and she doesn't learn as quickly as my gelding (eg. learning by pressure-release... when this midget needs to put her bridle on and she won't lower her head...which I taught my gelding in 5 minutes and he's retained it ever since). I feel as if I can clearly pro-con them both. I spoke to my trainer and he surprised me, actually! He is the one who put Victory (the warmblood mare) under saddle several years back. While he, quote, "doesn't typically like arabs," he does not think that Victory has that much more potential than Jax does, and actually likes Jax quite a bit-- for his attitude especially. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel like a burden was lifted off my shoulders. To hear my trainer say that Jax hasn't peaked in his dressage potential means a lot, because I am more than happy to put in the effort to go farther.

I think that I am going to give this search a break for a month, focus on Jax, then reassess. At the very least, I have a gut feeling that this mare is not the horse I'm looking for. My intention from the start was to have a casual, on-going search for my 3rd-4th level prospect and if I found it, pounce on it-- if not, keep moseying along. Scratching this mare off of my list means I can go back to moseying.
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post #12 of 16 Old 07-29-2013, 10:24 AM
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I bought my dream horse last July.. he was completely my 'One'. But, I made the decision to sell him due to a big move accross the country and time limits. A 4 year old needs a lot of dedication.

In the end, I couldn't sell. Found a superb buyer and in the PPE he passed with top colours. In the Xrays, it showed he had an old compact injury from foal/yearling age. Both myself and the buyer were devestated.

I gifted him to my trainer. Every day I want to go back and pick him up in a trailer, but I need to be fair to myself and him.

My advice? With extra pennies, get a good dressage trainer in your area. If you have only been at this for 8 months with your boy, and solo for most of it, think of what you can achieve with a trainer?
Train, train and train.

It will give both yourself and your husband (and I am so very sorry to hear you are both going through this) time away to chill out. You know Jaxx and he will give you support you need. Heck, I know Dubai did during some horrid patches earlier this year.

Stick with Jaxx, get some good lessons. When the time is right, look at something younger. Maybe even something green broke, but you will then have a trainer to help. If you find the right sort of temperament, it is really really simple. You obviously have the dedication! But don't rush it.

Also, having a trainer that knows you means you can take him or her along when you find one you like.

Admittedly, my trainer at the time of my purchase didn't see eye to eye, but I used this forum and people saw the potential of the little man. But it does help! I lucked big time with Dubai, but it is all patience.

Just my thoughts though :)
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post #13 of 16 Old 07-29-2013, 10:40 AM
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Yes, went through this recently with my gelding, but in reverse. He and I clicked on the ground but I felt he was very aloof under saddle, and I'm the type of rider that likes to connect with their horse. The decision to sell came very easy when I saw his new owner ride him - both of them looked extremely happy, and she grinned through the entire ride. Watching videos of us now, I am very happy I made the decision to sell. He's they type of horse that needed a non-A-personality type rider.. Haha. What held me back from selling him was that he is a fantastic horse, very cool and calm about everything, which was a refreshing change from the spastic horses I've owned in the past.
My advice to you is to go try the mare a few more times, and make sure you like her. Get a full vet check, and at her age I would really look at getting X-rays, the initial expense could save you thousands, and heartache.
Decide what you want in a horse. If your gelding isn't it, the perhaps it's time to sell him on to someone he can teach.
Unfortunately, nobody can tell you what to do... It is ultimately your decision. (Which sucks, I wish that someone could have made the decision for me, haha!!)

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post #14 of 16 Old 07-29-2013, 12:53 PM
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Originally Posted by existentialpony View Post
Are you referring to the market for horses, or my particular situation? We have a very healthy savings account that gets automatic payments every month. When I talk about money being tight, I am referring to our "free" money being tight. I appreciate the concern, though. :) My financial situation isn't the limiting factor for the purchase, it's the reason why I wouldn't add the burden of another horse without selling mine first.
I was actually referring to both. The horse sales market, especially for Arabs, is very poor right now. The economy is not great over all. I'm looking 1-5-10 years down the road and thinking of what kind of impact everything could have overall on a budget.

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post #15 of 16 Old 08-01-2013, 01:47 AM
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Whether you keep your current horse or not.. I don't know, I have great difficulty making those decisions. But like tlkng1 said horses move on. They adapt and start a new life, so think if you can live with it all. I was really attached to this mare I had, but she wasn't sound for riding really, and I agonised for months and eventually found the right home for her. I thought I'd be devastated, but I had a new horse I was working with and it was surprisingly okay, once I'd made the decision.

The thing with the other mare though, you said you didn't feel a particular connection or anything. You're only interested in her for possible training/ability. However not all horses are for all people, and if you're not sure about this horse now, then she might not work out in the future.

I understand that you need to be there for your husband, but having your current horse or a different one shouldn't make a difference, I'm sure you know your circumstances best
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post #16 of 16 Old 08-13-2013, 10:14 PM
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I don't own a horse but ride other people's horses. It's a good way to try out different types before you buy.

I switched from riding a little Arab gelding to this gigantic Oldenburg/Lippizaner mix. I though it was love at first ride BUT after about 20 lessons on him I realize that we are not a good match for Dressage because he has a very "uphill built" and I have trouble finding and staying at the center of gravity. Plus my legs barely stretch beyond the saddle pad.

Perhaps you could take dressage lessons on various warmbloods to get a better feel for what you're looking for?
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