Originally Posted by MyBoyPuck
Definitely don't try to force things. I'm still working on the same thing with my 7 year old OTTB. The mechanics of proper riding certainly have to be there, but ultimately it's a matter of when the horse has the proper conditioning and muscling to do what is being asked of them.
Lots of suppling exercises, half halts, and lateral work has worked for me. If I can't get the desired result at the trot, we go back to the walk and work on our communication before trying at the trot again. Definitely reward with a softening of the reins whenever she softens, even if it's only for a stride.
If your TB is cold backed like mine, nothing's better than a brisk canter to get him warmed up and more willing to work on connection.
Thanks, =) At them moment she is just doing 10 minutes on the lunge with side reins to try get more muscle. She isn't cold backed however, so that isn't a problem.