Alrighty. Lets get right into it. Typically lately, as the weather has turned and we've had lots of snow, she is a little frisky when I bring her in (no traction in the field even with the studs). So to start, we'll do about 15 minutes a side on the lunge. We'll focus on trot and canter, in the attempt to get her over her back and moving forward before I get on. After that, we'll warm up with a few rounds of walk on either rein, first with a loose rein, and then in the frame? (I put a "?" simply because I'm not quite sure what the favorite terminology is around here - I typically would've said on the vertical, but who knows - can someone clarify so when I'm explaining myself and trying to learn something I can be clear? ).
After this, I've already worked myself up to the point that we're going to have to trot eventually and this is where the problem starts. She'll be warm and soft and gorgeous at the walk - as soon as we kick it up a gear the first thing she does is bring her nose up. I think this is mainly attributed to the fact that she now knows that she can !@*# with me because I haven't been consistent with this in the past. So because she's gotten away with it before, now she's learned and this is where we're at. So we'll post trot for a decent amount of time on both reins. I'll work on some serpintines if I have room in the arena - really focusing on bending, flexing and trying to get her through. I have pace issues - so I'll try and stay conistent with the gait. I will try *not* to worry about not being in the connection, as as soon as I start to get worked up about not getting anywhere I get tense, then she braces - and as the others have mentioned, everything become more difficult.
Then we'll move on to sitting trot - I think I've done a great job thus far of really sitting and controlling my seat. We've done a lot of no stirrup work in the past and it has really helped. Now - if she's not over her back and we're not forward and round, obviously sitting becomes slightly harder and neither of us are as happy as we could be. None the less, I will sit and again work through serpintines, bending and flexing trying to accomplish the same thing.
Recently, as in over the course of the last week, we've bumped up canter to way earlier in our sessions as this helps with our forward movement, and I seem to have no problems with coordinating everything in the canter. She's round, forward, I can tell that my hands, seat, and legs are doing everything they are supposed to be doing, and I have a much great ability to "tweak" the gait more accurately then I do at the trot.
Anyways, eventually, after cantering (always after this point in our sessions/lessons), it's much easier to get her round and forward (obviously). So this is typically where I hit the 35 minutes and things start to come together (not all the time, only some).
I absolutely feel YOU are not ready in what your mind should be telling your body what to do, so rather than go through a long explanation I have a Youtube video of a well know trainer doing EXACTLY what I do. My horse needs to be more loosened up as he does have a cold back but I do find that what is shown in the video helps the rider get more co-ordinated before they start "into" working with the horse. These exercises gives both time to feel each other out and it does set the frame of mind for both horse and rider to get more "in" to each other.