Spyder... thank you for your reply. And I know, they shouldn't be tight, ack, I'm having trouble explaining... okay.
Forget the comment about my hips. Ha ha. I'm still figuring out all this stuff. About how everything I do with my body affects my horse, etc. I've been getting better results from my horse lately and maybe I'm just over thinking things, as I often tend to do. He's been a lot more willing, relaxed, and soft lately, and I guess instead of worrying myself over the little things I should just keep doing what's working, taking my lessons, and not analyzing every little thing.
So lets rephrase... Is there any good way to explain how to activate my core when I'm riding? Or it is something that only comes with time and practice, and not some little thing that can be tweaked to start using those muscles better? I understand that no matter what it's going to take practice to master it. I'm just wavering in between. Sometimes I have it sometimes I don't.
And thank you koomy, I'm running out the door but glanced over the site, seems very informative!
Sorry for my all over the place thought process. I'm a bit scatterbrained. But I'm just trying to find the one piece of advice that makes it click in my head, you know?
Thanks for the help you guys.