A few months ago I had to move my horse out of a dressage stable due to abuse. I was taking lessons there and my riding was improving at a slow rate mainly because of the trainer and me not being able to ride a lot. The thing that helped the most there was that my horse was being exercised 5 times a week and he was staying fit.
After I switched stables, I could and still can only ride once/week because it is so far from my house. My horse has lost all his fitness and his training has all gone down the drain; so has my riding. I took a few lessons with the trainers at the new place and they tried changing my positions so that my hands were stretched out past my horse's withers and I was leaning really far back and sitting in a chair position. Then they tried to teach me to look down at my horse's head and neck because "dressage is all about the head and neck" and then pull my horse's head in. I stopped those lessons but wow that really put my horse and I back in training. I'm trying to bring back my good position but I find it really hard when I just ride once a week. Also, my horse is very unfit and has lost a lot of his muscles that he used in dressage. It has been three months of him being ridden once/week, part of that with me screwing up his mouth and training with bad lessons.
When I go out and ride, he's so stiff, disobedient and hard on the bit. I know it's not his fault though. I can only get him on the bit at the walk and everything else absolutely sucks. I feel like if I was a better rider, I would be able to move forward. I feel so frustrated and every ride gets worse. Do you have any suggestions?