he has decided to evade I think is the word, by falling through the outside shoulder and wayyyyyyy overbending his neck and not listening to leg aids from me so much! This is on both reins but worse on his less stiff rein.. right one I think!
I have tried an extra big kick when he does it, and I've tried using my whip on his shoulder, but it doesnt seems to work, I've got a firm contact on the outside rein too and that doesnt seem to block him..
any idea's guys?! Much appreciated!!
I think it works out better, people don't get as anxious or frustrated, if they think of it not as an evasion, but as he's doing what you've taught him to do, he's going the way you ride him, just change your riding, the horse will change.
The best thing is that a person there, an instructor, someone more experienced, looks and watches what is going on. People on the internet can only guess - they aren't there.
So here is a guess. You feel a firm contact on the outside rein, and even so, the horse overbends his neck.
To which side does he overbend his neck, the inside? And then his outside shoulder pops out? And he doesn't seem to respond to your leg aids, you try 'a big kick', but that doesn't fix it. Which leg are you kicking with, your inside or outside?
Here are some ideas, based on what I've seen and done...if you have a good contact, connection, you can control your horse's neck. Many people do not have enough contact, connection. They are 'setting the horse's head', by using one rein then the other, so the horse 'drops' the bit and 'sets his head' -- the result is that they cannot control or steer their horse.
The energy the horse is moving forward and meeting the bit with, is what makes his neck not overbend. If you have forward energy, your horse's neck is stable, if you do not, you have a noodly neck. So does the rider's steady hand, accepting the contact the horse offers, help.
YOu say he doesn't respond to your leg aids. When your horse does not respond to your leg aids, it is incorrect to respond by giving 'a great big kick'. Use your leg, if there is no reaction, use your whip, tap the horse with the whip, however firmly is needed, to teach him that when you use your leg, he should respond to your leg.
What does your instructor say is the problem? Don't have an instructor? That's going to make it tough. Internet advice is not based on seeing the horse and rider.