Originally Posted by ThePoniesForever View Post
So I'm riding a massive, 17.1.5h Hanoverian gelding, and I'm 5 foot 3, and only 94 pounds. See the problem?
The horse is awesome, and is pretty responsive most of the time. I ride with draw reins, and a whip, but no matter how much I shorten my draw reins, I can't get him round.
Getting him round at a walk and canter, but as soon as I do a posting trot, he won't stay round.
My riding coach hates having the same lesson twice, and when she's mad, she yells, which scares me.
What do I do?!?
Firstly, get shot of the draw reins. Shortening them doesn't bring a horse's head round, it only pisses them off!! You'll only get the effect of either pulling on its mouth, or putting its head between its knees.
Secondly, coming 'round' or on the bit comes from a mix of things, not just the bit.
You need to ensure your horse is warmed up correctly. When I warm up in walk and trot, I never go whole school, I have single loop serpentines, three loop serpentines, 20 m circles, change the rein through half the school, change out of the corner, 10m circles in walk. Anything, use your imagination.
If you struggle to get your horse to listen to your aids, and he doesn't work from behind, transitions. However, correct transitions. When you ask for walk to trot, or trot to walk/ halt it has to be on the dot, not teeper down in to it. When you think walk, he walk's. You have to prepare the horse with half halts on the outside rein, let him know something new is coming. You get him ready with your legs and seat then BAM, do it. Don't pull back on him. As you do more and practise more, it'll become easier.
Also position. When the horse is working correctly from behind, he'll start to swing in his back, and naturally drop his head, they do it in the field, free lunging, anything. Its comfy for them. You want to have him in an outline though... so, you need quiet quiet hands. I was always told my outside rein is my 'working' rein, and my inside rein is my 'direction' rein, direction as in left right, im combo with leg and seat, and also head position. If your horse resists, don't pull and fight, give and take. Your trainer should be able to explain this clearly to you. Keep sending the horse forwards, though.
Lower your hand position if you need to, and don't expect the horse to come up and neat and tidy straight away, it is very exhausting for a horse, roundess and suppleness does not mean he has to be up in your face. When he comes in to an outline, reward with a 'give' of the rein, I'm not saying throw it away, its a small action which makes all the difference in the world.
As for your trainer. I'm scared of mine too. Last night I nearly bailed out the side door when my 18.1hh decided bucking, mini rears and spinning was great fun, but I stayed on because I really didn't want to see the consequence from my trainer if I fell off.
IF you don't understand something, you should have no qualms in approaching your trainer and asking for advice. Generally, if a trainer is shouting at you, its because they know you can do it, and they want to push you harder because you may be having a bad day, and its reflecting in your riding.
However, this can also have a negative result in case you tense up, the horse will feel it and depending on the animal he may take care of you, or he may take the mickey and not work at all.
Speak to your trainer, explain your problems and work through them, that's you best bet.