Transferring what I had discovered to the mare I ride regularly I'm beginning to realise I'm causing the issues we're having such as inactive hind, tension and generally not wanting to maintain a contact particularly in the transitions. I tried very hard tonight with this in mind to ride inside leg to outside hand with soft inside hand just asking for flexion then softening as soon as she gave it. My stumbling block was trying to use my seat to slow her, basically nothing I tried seemed to work and on a softer, longer contact she just got faster in trot till I ended up using the reins again to stop which again caused the head to fly up and we fell into walk rather than forward into walk.
I realised no one has actually told me what I'm supposed to be doing with my seat to encourage the horse to slow and it is very likely I'm doing the exact opposite of what you should do.
Can anyone help me on this, I'm horrified about the inside hand issue now its been made clear to me but unless I get the hand of slowing with the seat I resort back to it.