I was wondering if anyone had any tips or training exercises to help me keep a steady outside rein contact? I know I need to keep my outside rein soft and in one place but I always end up throwing it away or pulling backwards to compensate for my constant moving. Is this just something I have to work through and just figure out on my own or are there some exercises that might help?
Also, on a similar note, I am having trouble getting my horse to flex in the poll and jaw. She is VERY stiff in the poll and the jaw and my trainer is having me open my inside rein to teach her what I am asking. Again my problem is that she either resists or bends in the neck and I end up pulling backwards unintentionally. I'm getting frustrated because I am now getting "yelled" at for opening my inside rein too much or pulling backwards on the rein. Are there any tips, tricks, or visualizations out there that may be able to help?
I realize a lot of this is just feel and figuring out what works but I'm at a loss of what else I can try to do.
Thanks for any help or advice!