Also, on a similar note, I am having trouble getting my horse to flex in the poll and jaw. She is VERY stiff in the poll and the jaw and my trainer is having me open my inside rein to teach her what I am asking. Again my problem is that she either resists or bends in the neck and I end up pulling backwards unintentionally. I'm getting frustrated because I am now getting "yelled" at for opening my inside rein too much or pulling backwards on the rein. Are there any tips, tricks, or visualizations out there that may be able to help?
I realize a lot of this is just feel and figuring out what works but I'm at a loss of what else I can try to do.
Thanks for any help or advice!