I half lease a horse from a lovely person and work with the owner's dressage trainer.
I am new to this world of dressage but have noticed that there are definitely two schools of thought at this barn (and two trainers who don't talk to each other).
One uses a harsher method (in my opinion) of teaching and training, where the other slows things down and helps you build the right foundation for the person/horse partnership.
I feel very sad and guilty for riding my lease horse the way the owner and trainer want me to ride him. Because I am "not strong enough to hold him in frame" yet, I have to use a very tight bungee and other devices whenever I ride him.
The bungee was tightened again and I could not get him into a nice forward trot. His balance seemed off due to the bungee. I felt so bad I could not finish the ride.
How should I approach the owner and trainer to let them know I feel uncomfortable using such a tight bungee if at all.