I have 2 kids with special needs, and my husband is great when he's home, but his job has him traveling for 4-6 WEEKS at a time over to Asia! I wish we could live closer to my folks, but it has been hard. I have a good work schedule and have a good friend that encourages me to ride 1 time a week (I have Wednesdays off, and I go riding unless it's POURING while my kids are in school ... laundry be ****ed!), and then I joined a church. I am not a super religious person, but the church has been helpful with some low cost sitters available in our area ... a lot of retired Grannies that like babysitting and are not expensive. I try to schedule a 2 hour ride on the weekend when I can. But right now my endurance mare has a hoof issue, so no riding anyway. I feel you all on the 'sideline' racer. I encourage you to try to find a family member or a low cost sitter to help out with riding. I am hoping my daughter will get into riding, too! I took her trail riding and she loved it, but her horse is super duper pokey, and my mare HATES ponying him ... but she deals with it so we can go out. If there's a will, there's a way. Even if the odds are stacked against you!