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post #1 of 10 Old 08-21-2010, 11:15 PM Thread Starter
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-_- Ranting... Need Support...

Alright. Here's the deal. There's this boy at the barn that I ride at who used to ride the pony that I now own all the time when he was a school horse. Well, this boy thinks that he knows everything there is to know about horses, which frustrates me in the first place. The other day, he walked down to Jerry's stall, where I was untacking him after I had just ridden him. Without even saying hello to me, he says "Jerry needs his mane pulled." Uhh... no... he doesn't. I can have my horse's mane how I please, thank you very much.

Then, he says "Are you showing him this fall?" I replied POLITELY "Probably, why?" and he says "Because if you're not, I will." Uhmmm... this is MY horse we're talking about. You don't have me permission to ride him in anything. He's MY horse. I OWN him. His coggins is in MY NAME. What makes you think I would allow you to show MY horse? Anyways, I said "No, you're not gonna show him, actually. He is MY horse after all." Then I smiled at him and carried on. One of my friends had witnessed the whole thing, and we were talking while we were walking to the tack room. She told me that he has been bothering her to ride her horse, and that she won't let him because he'll just try to mooch more off of her.

The other week I was riding, and I know that this boy likes to ride Jerry, so I told him that he could ride him for fifteen minutes. So, he had his fifteen minutes, then asked for five more. I told him he could have two more minutes. He used up the two. Then he asked for two more. I told him he could have another lap around, and then he had to give me my horse back. He lapped to the corner before where I was standing, and kept circling in that corner so that technically his lap wasn't over. Then, I walked over, grabbed my horse's reins, and told him to get off. He did, and I got back on. He then asked me if he could have my horse while I was on vacation. I said "maybe", trying to be nice and polite.

Yesterday I was riding up in the field, and he came in with a jumping bat. He asked me if I wanted to do a little cross country course in the field (there are some jumps set up), so I said sure. He made up a course, and I trotted it. He then complained that I was going too slow, and that if I didn't canter the course, he would run up to my horse and smack him on the butt with the bat. (Uhh... what the heck? Are you trying to kill me? My horse gets very excited while in the field, so I trotted it the first time to make sure he was sane before cantering it.) So, I took the bat from him, not planning to use it on my horse anyways, and started the course again. After I finished (and he was satisfied with it), he took his bat and left.

The only reason I did the course was because it sounded fun when he suggested it, and I knew it would probably be the only way to get him to go away. Also, I only took the bat and didn't say anything because I KNOW that he would have actually chased my horse with it.


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post #2 of 10 Old 08-21-2010, 11:38 PM
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Stop allowing him to ride your horse, if he asks just tell him no. Instead of saying "maybe" tell him NO!

Stop having anything to do with him, if he asks if you want to do something, say No, Thank you and be done with it. If he doesn't get it after a no, just pretend your deaf and go about your merry way ignoring him.

If he can't get anywhere or get anything out of you, he'll give up. "Maybe's" and doing things he suggests is just stringing him along and going to cause you more issues.
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post #3 of 10 Old 08-21-2010, 11:41 PM Thread Starter
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Okay, I'll try that. I just feel like I'm being mean when I do that. I mean, other then the whole ordeal in the field, he hasn't caused any harm. :/
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post #4 of 10 Old 08-21-2010, 11:52 PM
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I would be polite at first, but if he doesn't learn some respect then I'd be just as rude as he is.

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post #5 of 10 Old 08-22-2010, 12:16 AM
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Exactly! Two geldings has it right. Be as nice as you can be until you can't possibly be nice anymore. If he keeps pushing, get snobby. Tell him that you feel sorry that he doesn't have a horse like yours but that your horse is just that. Your Horse. Tell him you don't want him anywhere near your horse. If he persists, tell your stable manager/barn owner/trainer/instructor. Tell them he has been hassling you and that you don't want him bothering you or your horse.

It sounds really cruel as this boy does sound rather young. The problem is, some people don't take hints. You give an inch (15 minute ride) they take a mile (30 minute ride). At some point, you will have to put your foot down and put it down hard.
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post #6 of 10 Old 08-22-2010, 01:14 AM
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i agree with coriniowalk although i'd be rude from the start cause thats how i am! lol just say no one little word two letters N. O. lol n.n'

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post #7 of 10 Old 08-22-2010, 07:02 AM
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I think you have tried being nice, and he just takes advantage of it. Just like a horse-no grey area, make everything black and white (crystal clear) to him, as in NO, and use only as much pressure as you need to get the response you want. (rudeness to get him to go away!) :)

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post #8 of 10 Old 08-22-2010, 12:09 PM
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Angel, stop letting him ride YOUR horse. And be clear about it - not something like "oh, may be next time" and so on, but that you BOUGHT him and he's YOURS now and you ride him enough so he doesn't need any extra-work. I'd also make it clear to BO that you don't want other people to ride or mess with your horse without the permission (in a case the boy will proceed when you are not around).
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post #9 of 10 Old 08-22-2010, 12:45 PM
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Originally Posted by kitten_Val View Post
Angel, stop letting him ride YOUR horse. And be clear about it - not something like "oh, may be next time" and so on, but that you BOUGHT him and he's YOURS now and you ride him enough so he doesn't need any extra-work. I'd also make it clear to BO that you don't want other people to ride or mess with your horse without the permission (in a case the boy will proceed when you are not around).

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post #10 of 10 Old 08-23-2010, 10:36 AM
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I would make sure the BO knows about this right away in case he tries to ride your horse if you do go on vacation, as he might say that you gave the OK for it. Franknbeans is right...you have been nice, so time for new tactics.
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