So my question, the mare's owner always jumped her in a rubber coated jointed pelham (I'm pretty sure it was jointed) and she went really well in that bit. Now comes to me, I started leasing her in june and I'm not going to sugar coat things and say I have the softest hands ever, I know I need to use my leg more but that's different. She COMPLETELY refuses my half halts, 100%. In my last lesson she was so forward we had to WALK into our jumps and she'd still come peeling off the other side in a full on gallop, and usually a bucking fit. We've had the vet out and there are absolutely no problems with her other than lacking a little muscle.
These jumps aren't huge and demanding, usually a course from crossrail to 2'3 oxer and then a 2' vertical 2 jump line. My coach saw how forward she was being and told me to walk into the crossrail (Desy would still pick up her trot one stride before just to get enough impulsion for the jump) and told me to halt as soon as we came down, staying in a straight line. There was only about 4-5 strides room after so I was on her with the half halts and sitting back litterally screaming to myself in my head ' YOU ARE A SIDEWALK PIECE, BE CONCRETE AND SIT LOW' glad I didnt say it out loud....
Anyways she didn't stop, ever, she'd throw her head and pull into a stupid canter that was impossible to sit and felt like she was literally prancing on the spot.
Wow, I can really rant. ANYWHO her old leaser (sp?) rode her in a standing, but after asking Destiny's owner she said she didnt think it'd help. She said she'd put her in the pelham, something my trainer hates in Desy's mouth. It's like she thinks I'll only ride on the curb rein, which I won't, I'm smarter than that. Even when I was a beginner I rode my lesson horse Milo in a kimberwicke....and now my trainer wont even let me try a pelham. Really I just want to try it, see how Desy goes.
Goodness that's going to be confusing for everyone. Cookies to everyone who read all of it. If that confused you, I'm really asking, do you think I'm being ridiculous in thinking my horse really doesn't want to listen to the bit, or is my coach being too careful with what we put in her mouth..?