My instructor got on Kiara for the first time yesterday. She kept trying to soften her at the pole (and bend the neck if I put it correctly, I'm not really good at terminology) but she had nose in air constantly (my instructor is great, btw, she's teaching horses dressage/jumping succefully, shows, and has years and years of experience).
Instructor suggested the ground work, but I showed her right away that horse responds to the pressure on pole just fine by lowering her neck and relaxing: whether I use my hand or the halter - slight pressure is already enough. She also relaxed there when I rode her and my instructor was pulling (well, not the correct word) on reins. Looks like she's just silly and can't understand she has to do the same thing when person is in saddle and ask her to. So are there any exercises to help me to teach her that in saddle?