Originally Posted by Kayty
You sound just like me a few years ago!
It's a matter of confidence, to be a rider, you also have to be very good at bluffing, and winning a debate. Know exactly what you want that horse to do, and just do it. You need to sign your initials on EVERY step the horse takes, own each stride, control where you want each leg to be placed. THAT is being a rider. If the horse wants to go left and brace, turn right and make it use those hind legs. There are lots of exercises you can do as well, that really force you to be a ride rather than a passenger ;)
Well said! I, too, am learning how important it is to truly ride
my horse. I'm finding it to be a fine but vital line between "owning every stride" and micromanaging, fiddling, etc. Also, I'm finding that horses used to passengers sometimes take a little to get used to the idea of a real rider. "Owning every stride" doesn't mean being a drill sergeant, either. It is simply refusing to take no for a final answer.
Position, precision, and practice have been my best friends. Precision is the aim, and the horse can't be precise if he isn't in position, and he can't be in position if you aren't.