| I have total freedom, but only for the reason is because she is teaching me to be a better trainer and to think and feel independently. . |
This is what I do with the people I'm instructing. Granted, they're very much beginners - but I don't want to take their money, telling them the same thing over until they day I die. That's not TRUE teaching, IMO.
I like it when they ask questions, and question what I've told them. It shows that they're thinking about it, and it's more likely to stick with them. If they ask, and you tell them why, they SEE the purpose behind what they're doing. Even when I do lessons, I ask WHY all the time. If there's not reason behind it, then there's no reason to do it.
I've literally taken lessons where all I got from it was "Keep doing what you're doing, because it's working" .... I don't take lessons there anymore. I haven't taken lessons in a year, because I can't find an instructor who will better my riding or my horse. I can get the same out of a horse from everyone else around here, and it drives me NUTS because I so desperately want to gain more skills. Despite whatever, it's always good to ask WHY. As a paying client, you deserve reason.