Re: argue with your instructor
My horse resides in the same area as MyBoyPuck and is also in eventing. There are multiple trainers within that area that you can train with, and close by, like you said, your trainer is only a short hack over the fields and through the woods. My advice: if your not happy, then leave. It's not worth the emotional stress you are experiencing. As for the trainer you took a lesson with: just look at her horses go in the ring...happy, soft, collected, will jump anything and are healthy. And look at her students: calm, confident, are solid with their basics and are steadily moving up the levels. She is the trainer I would go to to start a new, young horse in the eventing world. And she is the trainer I would bring my child to. You must have patience when riding with someone new, everyone brings something to the table, you just need an open mind to learn, accept, and apply to your riding. It is not a good thing to ride with just one trainer, you become too one sided and closed to new techniques. A TRAINER has earned that title when they start to charge money for their services, with that said, as riders we are all TRAINERS, you don't need a mile long resume, you need time, mileage, experience, and once again open mindedness to know that your learning is still evolving, but the goals are different, the learning is to better yourself and your students as well. That's all I can say, riding is an ever evolving process and the best riders are open minded!!! So don't argue/debate/question.....learn!