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post #51 of 56 Old 05-29-2010, 10:43 AM
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Re: argue with your instructor

My horse resides in the same area as MyBoyPuck and is also in eventing. There are multiple trainers within that area that you can train with, and close by, like you said, your trainer is only a short hack over the fields and through the woods. My advice: if your not happy, then leave. It's not worth the emotional stress you are experiencing. As for the trainer you took a lesson with: just look at her horses go in the ring...happy, soft, collected, will jump anything and are healthy. And look at her students: calm, confident, are solid with their basics and are steadily moving up the levels. She is the trainer I would go to to start a new, young horse in the eventing world. And she is the trainer I would bring my child to. You must have patience when riding with someone new, everyone brings something to the table, you just need an open mind to learn, accept, and apply to your riding. It is not a good thing to ride with just one trainer, you become too one sided and closed to new techniques. A TRAINER has earned that title when they start to charge money for their services, with that said, as riders we are all TRAINERS, you don't need a mile long resume, you need time, mileage, experience, and once again open mindedness to know that your learning is still evolving, but the goals are different, the learning is to better yourself and your students as well. That's all I can say, riding is an ever evolving process and the best riders are open minded!!! So don't argue/debate/question.....learn!
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post #52 of 56 Old 05-29-2010, 11:54 AM
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heck no Im the child!
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I'm sorry I didn't have time to read every post so if this has been said then I'm sorry :)

I wouldn't necessarily argue with my instructor, but I do ask questions. I like to know why someone is asking me to do something this way or that. If the person can't answer with a reason then I usually stop getting them to teach me. If you can think of a logical reason for me to do something then I will try it no problem. It's when you can't give me a reason that I have an issue. There should always be a reason behind everything we do with horses.

Now I know you said you can't use anyone else becasue they don't allow outside instructors but I would suggest talking to the BO. Explain to them that you tried a lesson with their instructor and it didn't work out so well. Explain what happend and see if they can help you come up with a suitible answer. They may have someone else that they will allow in, or they may make an exception and allow you to bring someone else it. It doesn't hurt to ask (unless the instructor is the BO, then you may have a problem). I hope you can find something that works for you. Good luck.
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Like you said, your trainer is only a short hack over the fields and through the woods. My advice: if your not happy, then leave. It's not worth the emotional stress you are experiencing. As for the trainer you took a lesson with: just look at her horses go in the ring...happy, soft, collected, will jump anything and are healthy. And look at her students: calm, confident, are solid with their basics and are steadily moving up the levels. !
I'm not experiencing any emotional stress over this. As I've said several times before, it's not a big deal. We got off on the wrong foot, our teaching/learning styles obviously clashed. It happens. My horse is well cared for there and that's ultimately what matters. I did watch some other lessons first and saw the attributes you mention. I would not have tried a lesson otherwise. When I did take the lesson, it was completely unfamiliar ground to me and I didn't know what to make of it. I am used to a very different style of teaching. As I said in the OP, I just want to know what other people's back and forth was with their instructors.

You just have to see your distance...you don't have to like it.
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post #55 of 56 Old 06-05-2010, 02:51 AM
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Smile BestJumping

I just trust and having faith on my trainer and if I just have any problem or I just want to asked something then he always welcome for discussion, thanks that I have a well trained trainer.
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post #56 of 56 Old 06-05-2010, 07:34 AM
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Well to start, they're supposed to tell you everything that you're doing wrong.
But that being said, they should also be telling you how to fix it, and if they are failing to do such, you should find a new trainer.

But I would never argue with my trainers. Why? They're both extremely accomplished, and respected, and I'm paying a boat load to listen to them, so I'm going to.

I have however, expressed my feelings to them, in telling them if I was uncomfortable doing something, and that's perfectly acceptable, however one of my trainers will go on a tangent on how she would never tell me to do something she didn't think I was capable of and I usually end up doing it anyways :]
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