Sparrow - I realize planning, goals and attainment are the staples of modern life but in horse riding you are dealing with two organisms which don't write down lists of aims and acheivments.
The first organism over which you have very little control is the part of your brain which directs the reflexes back to the horse between your thighs. Its the bit which keeps you in the saddle. You may think you told that muscle which prevented you from falling to perform that twitch - but your conscious brain had very little to do with the response. By the time you had thought what to do, if you hadn't reacted instantly - before you could even think of what to do, then you'd have been on the floor.
You will learn to ride by rote - constant repetition and not by conscious brain power. So the timing of any acheivment is not within your power. Be patient. Ride as often as you can and once you can sit to walk, trot and canter, then ride as many horses as you can find in the riding centre.
Incidentally don't try riding a friend's horse yet - that's another can of worms.
Secondly - there is that 600 kg hunk of muscle, blood and bone on which you are sitting. It is an animal with a mind of its own and it doesn't read or write. But within a few minutes of your sitting on its back, the creature has you sussed. If it weren't a school horse, then it would have you off in an instant. Be nice to it and take a few tidbits in your pocket and hide them from the instructor.
Lastly , I should mention that you are a 32 year old lady. You are going to struggle when competing with a 16 old girl, the daughter of a farmer who has been riding her own pony since she was 4. Over the years her body has adapted to the stresses and strains of riding. She'll have a strong pelvic floor, flexible ham strings and well developed muscles in the lower back. She'll have no fear. She has already been there, seen it and done it and has earned the Tee shirt. Just watch and learn, you can't compete.
All you have to do to become a passable jockey is ride, ride, ride - as often as you can. And get ready to fall off - that is only a question of time too.
Most importantly enjoy this wonderful sport - it is a game, a relaxation.
It is also a marathon, as you will find out.
PS Taking Pilates lessons will help.
Last edited by xxBarry Godden; 10-25-2011 at 07:56 AM.