I can't send her to a trainer right know because my family is trying to save-up for a vacation and trainers cost a ton. I think I will talk to my parants about selling her. I am going in a dressage show saterday so that might be a good time to sell her......I hope my parents will be OK about it.
If you are not sure whether you want to keep on riding, and if you have lost your confidence on this horse then I would sell her. Maybe from the money you save on your horse one or two lessons a week at a stable and a schoolmaster. That way you can develop your riding and get your confidence back. If you don't want to jump then don't jump, but if you have the opportunity to feel safe on a horse you may find yourself branching out and trying new things.
If you keep your horse you might be able to get through it in time, but you also may lose your confidence for riding forever, or one of you might get hurt. Scared riders to not mix with horses well.
If after lessons for a month or two you feel you are ready to get back into horses, start looking for a new one. Look for one that is reliable, friendly, kind and pretty quiet. Ideally they would have some experience in dressage, if that is what you want to do. At your age you probably don't want a big horse or anything, but you can probably find a good all round galloway that has been used in pony club, some little competitions etc.
Its hard parting with your horse, but if you are scared of riding her you have to evaluate your position.
A lot of lesson barns have lesson ponies/horses up for sale, the barn I used to ride at closed and sold alll their ponies so I think you should sell yours and check out local lesson barns and find out if they have any horses/ponies for sale who are gentle, dead broke and in their teens, rather than a young one. You want a horse that can help you gain back your confidence, not scare you away from riding
Or maybe find someone who is a more advanced rider, and has a pony they've outgrown (I mean in ability, not size), and exchange riding. That way when you advance, you'll have your pony waiting (but not so green).
Just do dressage then! No offence but it is a little selfish that you have your own pony and now want to quit. If you pony is green then ground work and dressage would be perfect for you and him/her :)
My parents did not take it so well. They said that I could do it and all this other stuff, they just don't understand that I am scarred out of my mind and want to get a more reliable pony so I can become a confident rider. Now what?
I agree with the person that said to try dressage with your current horse. You won't feel like you are necessarily giving up, your horse may enjoy dressage also and you will gain confidence by being a vital part of his training. I have a greenie and although he can be overwhelming sometimes, it makes me feel good that I am a part of getting him trained. Don't give up - try something else if you need to, but don't give up!