Help! I Need Your Opinion!

Have you talked with your instructor about how you feel? Maybe s/he doesn't realize that you're being pushed beyond your current ability? And if the instructor is doing it deliberately, I would suggest a different instructor. It's not like you're in boot camp: it's supposed to be fun, isn't it?

No. She is pretty strict and she thinks that I can do it, but I am actually scarred.

Sounds like your overmatched all the way around; a dad that won't listen, a trainer who thinks you're ready for something you're not, and a pony who needs more work. Perhaps you need to try and sit down with your parents AND your instructor in one session, and state exactly what you are feeling, and what you really want to do to help those feelings.

In the time between now and March, I would just keep pushing to do dressage, and other flatwork with this pony; that would probably build your confidence in her, and in yourself.

I agree with mum2pride on this, I hope everything works out for you.

Hi everybody, Madeira took a turn for the better and I am becomeing more confident jumping now that my trainer and I have been doing a excise with cavileties. I am doing my first jumping show on halloween. But I can't decide on walk, trot over poles or walk, trot over cross rails. I am very nervus!

I still think you would be better off with a trainer that will listen to your thoughts and a pony that is at your level, however it's great to see things have improved and yoru starting to get your confidence back.

Hello Midnight!
I read this post and thought you got some good advice from the folks who posted. I do agree that there is a bit of "overmatching" going on here.
It is good to hear that you feel your improving with your confidence issues!

There is no reason why you cannot take things a bit slower. No rush to be at a certain level of anything.

Good luck in your show. If you gut is telling you to go with the walk trot over poles than go with that, and/or the other way. Maybe you want to try both?

Anyhow good luck!
Halfpass

Good luck!

Hi everybody. so I went in my show and........


I got Reserve Champion!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (it was equitaion and I got 1st 3rd and 3rd)

It was a flat class (I got 1st in that one, go figure, because I am much better at flat than jumping) and then there were 2 jumping classes. (It was over poles). After I went in my division my friend went in the cross-rail division and so people were practising cross-rails everywere. My trainer wanted me to do it to. Soafter a little while I was flying over the cross-rails to. He he he funny how that works out.