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post #1 of 5 Old 03-30-2011, 02:48 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy help-what should i do?

i have been taking lessons at my english barn for about a year now. back in november we were jumpng approx.2ft but then i was off balance on the last ump and fell of and since that we never seem to jump anymore. since then all we really do is trot around the ring and do serpentines and trot over poles. it is very frustrating. then 2 weeks ago the horse i ride which i really bond with got spooked and bucked me off and i hurt my back a little. and last week they decided i didnt use my leg enough which is so NOT true because the past few months i have only been using my leg to go,stop,turn and everything.

so they give me this new young horse to ride and they know its head strong and doesnt listen well. they also know it likes to start cantering to the other arena nomatter how hard im trying to strop it with my leg. the pony started cantering to the other arena and i was using my voice and leg till we were 2ft away from the rail which the pony could easily jump. i started pulling the reins becuase i didnt want to jump over the rails. i was shouting woah and i never shout because im very shy and my instructor started yelling at me and blaming it all on me as if i wasnt even trying to use me leg and then she told me to use my voice which i did. my other instructor also got mad at me because i had "death grip' pn the reins... i admit i did but i was trying to keep the horse from going into the other arena again. and i got yelled at for that too. and now i really lost my confidence because i have been having a bad month of riding and my instructors keep yelling at me. i like my instructors and the people at my barn but its frustrating. what should i do?
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post #2 of 5 Old 03-30-2011, 03:03 AM Thread Starter
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should i switch barns or something?
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post #3 of 5 Old 03-30-2011, 08:00 PM
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I am a little surprised that after a fall and loss of confidence, that your instructor would put you on a more forward horse. That doesn't seem like a logical next step. I'd have you on a bomb proof school master until you had your confidence back up. Have you talked to your instructor about how you feel in terms of your confidence level? If they are just telling you to get over it, or trying to get you to tough it out on a more difficult horse, then yes, I would try another barn. Your safety is important. Sorry to hear things are going the wrong way for you right now. We've all been there. Hopefully you can find a place to get you back in the right direction.

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post #4 of 5 Old 03-30-2011, 08:45 PM
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I'd switch the barn. That simple. If the situation is as it sounds (no offense, but I always prefer to hear both sides before judging) it was dangerous what they did, much less they should yell at you.

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post #5 of 5 Old 03-30-2011, 09:36 PM
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WOW!!! i'm suprised that you haven't already left.
that horse (the young horse) sounds like it shouldn't be ridden without being remouthed and re-educated and only then the instructors should be making sure the horse is safe for the students and then select only the most experienced and confident riders to ride this horse! this is how people get hurt and it is negligence from the instructor!

i'm sorry but that is way too dangerous and it you that would have to live with a possible permanent injury for your whole life not them!

leave and safe yourself

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