Okay, so there's this big, black TB mare I ride at my barn (an ex-racehorse), who I'm having some problems with. I'm not jumping that high, but I would like to move up. And I think some of the reason for that is the fact that I tend to drop her before the jumps, and she takes advantage of that and skirts around them.
So my main question is, how do I become a more firm rider, and make her understand that I actually want to go over the jumps? :P
One more thing that may help; I feel that part of the reason I tend to drop her is because of lack of confidence. I took some pretty nasty falls at my old barn (moved to a closer one), which has made me terrified to gallop through a course. Whenever I do end up galloping, I make mistakes- I hunch my back, forget to release, get left behind, cut my corners, etc. So my second question would be how to work on building my confidence back up. I trust the mare, but it seems like I don't trust myself.