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        01-26-2009, 09:49 AM
    There's no telling a 12 year old that she needs to move on to a different horse. You can have her ride different horses, but she's always going to love Thor and he's always going to be her baby. The only thing you can do is flat out refuse to let her ride him anymore if there's going to be jumping involved. Tell her she's welcome to come out anytime and groom him and love on him, and that she can even ride him on the flat every once in a while, but that he's worked hard his entire life and he deserves his retirement.

    I went through the same thing when I was her age with a pony named Iceman. I couldn't move up because he absolutely hated jumping, so I never got past 2'3" because that's as high as he would go. I ended up showing a huge appaloosa named Q for a while, but I would still ride Iceman whenever I got a chance.
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        01-26-2009, 02:36 PM
    You sound like a wonderful instructor and she's a good little jumper!!

    It's up to you as the adult to put your foot down. There may be tears, but what's worse, her crying or a horse in constant pain?

    I'm thinking it's a confidence thing with Thor and that's why she's turning down other horses.
        01-28-2009, 08:45 AM
    Wow, she's really good! I can understand why she's so attached to him!!!
        01-28-2009, 08:51 AM
    Hi Me and my best friend (horsegirl123) ride together and were about her age. We really loved this Chesnut horse named Fidget. But we also loved to jump. Fidget was getting really old and lost his seeing ability. S every time he went up to a jump he would only see it at the last minute and panick. So my insructor told us that we needed a new challenge so that's when we both moved on to a little baby M&M (like the candy!) Every body thinks M&M is a goober. Although we think he's ARE little goober.
        01-28-2009, 04:30 PM
    What if you let her show him in like 2 or 3 flat classes, maybe she will slowly let him go ... then she can show her new horse (when you find one) in the jumping class' and some flat classes as well ... she might feel even more important to have 2 horses ...

    Or you can make a deal with her that she can have one lesson a week on him, flat only ... it can be the day that she lets her horse have the day off or something like that ...

    Keep us posted on how things are going!
        01-28-2009, 10:11 PM
    That is a really tough situation. We actually commissioned a painting of my daughter's first pony. A "not yet famous" artist did it for a reasonable price. Maybe she can do a scrap book of photos and write some of her favorite times with the horse. That kind of celebrates and shows her appreciation for the horse. Just let her know it is okay to feel sad about moving on. Explain the sadness means she loves the horse which means she is a true horsewoman, especially if she puts the horses needs above her own emotions and concentrates on what is best for him. Just some ideas.

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