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post #11 of 25 Old 04-13-2010, 08:54 PM
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I agree with you themacpack. And sophielou10, Im very sorry your parents split up, a lot of my friends have gone through that and its hard, but in time it'll get better, and as myboypuck said, when your older you can have a horse of your own and realize, you were lucky you were able to ride back then even if it was 1 day a week. Ask around, plenty of people could use help in these times, I'm sure you can find someone you can work for in exchange for a ride here and there! =) Stay strong! Things will get better soon =) As others have said, keep your chin up =) Its all gunna be alright =)

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post #12 of 25 Old 04-13-2010, 09:06 PM
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Im 13 as well. My parents divorced when I was 3, and it was hard for my mom to keep our horses, but she did and we both helped each other. You actually have it better than a lot of horse owners! I know I only get to ride about once a week because of having to take care of the horses, and trust me, it's a lot of work taking care of four horses. Maybe you'll be able to save up enough money to lease on-site in a few years if you keep saving up your money. Good luck, put on a brave face, and make the best of things :)
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post #13 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 04:00 AM Thread Starter
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mayfeild- i aware that, there a many people worse off than me, and feel there always will be
equiniphile-thankyou,at one riding school the first time you see a horse is when your mounting so no kind of bond is really formed, although at the other we do tack up if s/he wasn't ridden the lesson before. one of the main parts of owning a horse is being able to groom, get to know, and bond with a horse.
flyingchanges- i do realise how lucky i am to ride at my age, i've been riding for about three years and am now jumping 2 foot , where as my friend who has been riding for 6 isn't jumping yet, i guess i've had good instructors to help excelerate the learning process. thank you.
theboypuck- im sure i will appreaccate this in ten years time, but that feels an awful long wayaway. i dunno bout a future in writing though i always get D's in english, in all aspects, when some of my freinds get A*'s.
themacpack- i know that both schools have very long waiting listsand can affoard to be pickey
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post #14 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 06:03 AM
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sorry :(, this sounds really tough. at least you get to ride once a week, when i was your age that is where i was and there was no prospect of me ever getting a horse. now, only 5 years later i do have my own horse :), just something to think about.

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post #15 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 07:14 AM
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Sorry your parent's issues are causing you problems.

Even though they both have a waiting list I think you should talk to them. You never know, they might both have a kid that is in the same boat as you that they were trying to figure out how to accommodate. You could work one weekend and a different kid could work the other weekend.

Like was said, ask them. The answer of no is not any worse off than you are now.
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post #16 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 07:25 AM
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First off, I'm VERY sorry to hear about it. It's a sad situation for the kid(s) when parents split up. Life s*** sometime, unfortunately. I really feel for you!

I'm not sure where you live, but I know number of kids your age who just work whole day (Sat or Sun) in barn (helping out with cleaning, grooming, tacking, and getting a lesson for that back). So while it'd be still just one day, but it would be a -long- one day. You may consider that as one of the options.
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post #17 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 02:16 PM
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I'm going to approach this from a little different angle. I certainly am with everyone else who sympathizes with your troubles. I think if any of us were told we just couldn't ride, for reasons beyond our control, we'd be venting too. But yes, this is the way life is sometimes. Remember that "sometimes" is important. A year from now, who knows, even 6 months from now things may look brighter. But in the meantime--one of the best things to make people feel better about problems in their lives is volunteering. I don't mean in the horse world at all, necessarily. Maybe your school has programs where older students tutor younger students who need help? Maybe there's something like Habitat for Humanity where anyone can pitch in and help build a home for a needy family. Maybe you'd like to help out at a pet shelter. These are just some things off the top of my head. Not everybody has a big enough heart to volunteer, but those who do say it's at least as good for them as it is for the services they help.

It doesn't need to take up all of your time and it shouldn't be done "until" you can ride as much as you want. Just a thought for something a little outside the box.
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post #18 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 03:53 PM
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I'm sorry at 13 y/o you've been hit with the ugly truth that life just isn't fair.

I'm also sorry that your parents have split. I never had to endure that, but many of my friends did when I was growing up and I know how badly it affected them emotionally.

I know things seem horrible, but I never even got to ride as a kid, much less get to ride once a week. My parents had 6 children and 1 salary on which to feed, clothe, and keep a roof over all our heads, so riding just wasn't in the cards.

Once you're an adult you can own a horse of your own, and although that seems impossibly far away, it really isn't. One of these days you're going to turn around and wonder where the last 30 years have gone!

Chin up. Yes, it stinks to have so much thrown at you when you're still so young, but you'll get through this. Adversity either kills us or makes us stronger, and I'm betting you'll use this as a life lesson.
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post #19 of 25 Old 04-14-2010, 11:23 PM
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You can view this as a terrible thing OR you can walk away with a lesson and strength your friends will not have.

I was born to an out of wed lock mother and never knew my father and my Mom was in the Navy and worked allot. Then she married when I was 6 and when I was 7 had a child by her new husband who is one step up from a vegetable. Then her husband left us when I was 9. I had to give up my horse and move allot, I had to help tend my brother so my Mom could work and took part of high school threw home schooling to be home with him. I worked almost all of my childhood to earn my lessons and the right to ride, I even earned money to buy my own horses and attend shows. I earned my way into my trainers heart and she shared so much horses sense and training with me. I didn't have much of a childhood. BUT as an adult I have such an appreciation for life, my blessings and hard work. I am having more fun now then ever and trying my best to share these values with my own children.

So dig in and ride this wave and breaks will come your way. Just be sure to keep your eyes open so you recognize when they are there :)

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post #20 of 25 Old 04-15-2010, 12:04 AM
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my parents split up too, and my dad gave my horse to the barn owner cause he couldnt afford him.
but, he called and asked her if i could start riding him again.
if i get to start riding him again, it will be the best thing ever.
things WILL get better.
trust me (:
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