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post #11 of 20 Old 01-18-2012, 01:49 PM
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Only you know if you are being rushed, but my experience is if you have to ask, you are.
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post #12 of 20 Old 01-18-2012, 02:40 PM
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Finding an instructor can be very tricky. Personalities need to mesh. Goals and objectives need to mesh. This is why it is so important to meet the instructor in advance, talk to them, watch them in a lesson. Before you even sign up for the first lesson both of you should know what to expect. Some people teach by example, others are more harsh/to the point, and others hold your hand. Finding which way works for you may take some trial and error.

If you are not comfortable with the way things currently are, talk to her and make sure she understands. Maybe she has a barn full of riders that are unhappy if they are not jumping by lesson #3 or maybe she thought the crossrail was a way to set your focus differently and it would help you.

You only stand to gain from open, honest communication with her.
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post #13 of 20 Old 01-19-2012, 10:26 PM
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well there's always a rush of excitement jumping, that is until you get hurt.
I think it's too quick for you to be jumping.
my instructor told me I had to be able to W/T/C no stirrups and in two point (not at the same time usually) before anything else.
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post #14 of 20 Old 01-19-2012, 11:06 PM
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well there's always a rush of excitement jumping, that is until you get hurt.
I think it's too quick for you to be jumping.
my instructor told me I had to be able to W/T/C no stirrups and in two point (not at the same time usually) before anything else.
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This. I'm not saying you're not good enough to be jumping yet - but I don't know how your instructor could possibly know if you're ready, since it's only your third lesson and I don't know how she could have had time to properly evaluate you.

Unless, of course, she's had you W/t/c w/o stirrups and in two-point already.

I think one must trust one's own judgment with a new instructor and if you're concerned you're being rushed, then probably you are.
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post #15 of 20 Old 01-19-2012, 11:51 PM
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I've been riding with my Instructor for ten years. Before coming to her, my instructor had a rule that there would be no jumping until I could steer the horse at a canter with no reins. I changed stables due to very unsafe horses... something to keep in mind. Now, the coach I have been with for the past ten years obsesses over safety. Anyone jumping has to wear a body protector, which I am very grateful for... It has saved my back and tailbone multiple times. Anyhow (now I'm getting off track ), at times lessons used to seem boring when I started... We repeated things and repeated things for years, doing no more than small x rails and tiny courses for years. We focused on steady forgiving hands, firm and still lower legs, strong upper body, deep seat, etc. There were times when I wondered if she was holding me back form some reason... I wanted to jump BIGGER!! since three years ago, though, I have realized what she was doing. She gave me an incredible position and confidence in myself. I am not afraid to ride any horse or to fall off, because we even practiced that; falling off comfortably!! People around the barn marvel at the "Velcro on my bottom", because I come out of the wildest situations still propped up on my horse.

The point of my rant is, it really really really pays off to take your time in mastering the basics! I think it is much too early for you to be jumping... Then again, I am not your coach, she may simply have been testing you to see how you would handled it. I say give the stable a go, the horse spooked once. If you fall off again because of the horse, though, you should reconsider. Finally, be very very upright and honest to your coach. If you're not comfortable jumping yet, tell her. If she insists, leave. YOU have nothing to lose in being honest and safe. Your coach, on the other hand, does have something to lose if she doesn't respect you and your wellbeing... Cuz when you get right down to it, YOU'RE the one paying her!! 

Sorry that was a really long post... Hope it helped though!

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post #16 of 20 Old 01-20-2012, 12:28 AM
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If it makes you uncomfortable then just tell her.. shes not a mind reader:) And if she is having you jump a little jump then she probably thinks your ready for it!
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post #17 of 20 Old 01-20-2012, 04:51 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you all for the advice! I have my next lesson tomorrow and I'll be sure to talk to her about my concerns =)
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post #18 of 20 Old 01-20-2012, 06:14 PM
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DEFO not safe and i think not only are you being rushed but you could very easily have your confidence spoilt i would go somewhere with a safer more enjoyable approach xxxx good luck x I would not even consider jumping till i was walk trot canter and had galloped at a good level xxx
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post #19 of 20 Old 01-22-2012, 12:16 AM
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First of all, kudos for getting back on after being bucked off.

I am learning jumping but have been riding western for years competing in rodeo events... My trainer (I'd never had one before) let me jump the second lesson b/c I already had all the gaits and the posting and everything down before and she just had to teach me the diagonals and how to ride the jumps... Also, the jump wasn't really high and it was my horse I was on and I am training him too.

I agree with you, you shouldn't be jumping this soon after not riding since you were a kid. My trainer and the one I used to break and train rodeo/kid horses with would always make sure the rider is confident at all the speeds before starting a pattern. Good luck and keep on riding!
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post #20 of 20 Old 01-23-2012, 03:29 PM
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If you feel uncomfortable, then you should voice your thoughts. While it's partially a trainer's job to encourage you and expose you to new things, they shouldn't push you in to things too fast. From what you've written, I don't think that you're ready to begin jumping, even small fences. Before beginning to jump, a solid and well rounded flat-work/dressage education is usually necessary. But I definitely think that you should do lots and lots and lots of two-point and pole work before. Talk to her about it, and if she continues to ask you to "move up" too quickly, perhaps you should find another instructor?

Also, if you had to switch horses, she shouldn't have counted that as a part of your lesson time. Riding is the lesson, unless you're being taught to handle/groom a horse.

:) Let us know how it goes!
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