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        05-04-2010, 12:06 PM
      #11
    Weanling
    If you only notice and point out mistakes and negativity that's the only thing you will see. Start noticing what is going right, or better, or anything positive.
         
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        05-04-2010, 04:20 PM
      #12
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by welshies rule    
    stop!! If this is your own horse may I suggest leaving off the schooling and jumping for a week or so?

    Go get your horse give him a good groom and either tack him up and go for a toddle or take him for a walk in hand?

    I don't mean to be rude to you so I hope you wont take it that way, but.

    This is meant to be fun and enjoyable... just relax and then pick up where you left off feeling refreshed x
    No way... I'm not stopping riding, even for a little while. Being at the barn with the horses and riding is what gets me through life a lot of times. Things are getting pretty tough for me right now, and thinking of horses and riding is often what gets me through the day.

    Oh and by the way, it's not my horse.
         
        05-04-2010, 04:22 PM
      #13
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by koomy56    
    If you only notice and point out mistakes and negativity that's the only thing you will see. Start noticing what is going right, or better, or anything positive.
    If I don't notice my mistakes, how will I fix them? I do notice the things that are going right, but if I just ignored my mistakes and focus on the things that are going right, I will never learn.
         
        05-04-2010, 04:31 PM
      #14
    Foal
    Perhaps you are focusing on too many mistakes at once. Maybe focusing on one area over a period of he will allow you to fix that mistake and create a new good habit. Then move on to the next. It might take a day, a week, or a month for each new area. Put the other mistakes on hold and work on the ones that are most useful right now. Avoid situations (cutting corners) that make more mistakes until you are ready to focus on that. Also you can let your trainer know the areas you are having issues, even in group lessons. Other riders might need those same areas addressed as well. Good Luck!
         
        05-04-2010, 08:21 PM
      #15
    Weanling
    I try not to look at anything in my riding as a mistake, but as something to look forward to exploring and trying to improve. It's all in your attitude and how you view it. Mistakes aren't something that should been seen as something negative, but as an opportunity for a new learning opportunity. Everything takes time. You fix one thing, and then there's something else, and so on. That's the whole fun of it!
         
        05-04-2010, 09:51 PM
      #16
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by RideroftheWind    
    If I don't notice my mistakes, how will I fix them? I do notice the things that are going right, but if I just ignored my mistakes and focus on the things that are going right, I will never learn.
    There is a HUGE difference between noticing mistakes and obsessing over them. You need to find a balance between praising yourself for the things you did right and trying to fix what is wrong. If you completly ignore your mistakes and just focus on what your doing right then you'll get a big head and never fix your mistakes. But if you just focus on what your doing wrong (which seems to be what your doing, trust me I do this too, my trainer had to talk to me about it haha) then your going to be so hard on yourself that you start to get frustrated and that will prevent you from really doing anything to solve the mistakes. Plus it's just not healthy to be hard on yourself so much.
    Everyone has times when they take a step back in their riding. This is probably true in other sports as well; you know how people alway say Michael Jordan got cut from his highschool basketball team? Well, do you think George Morris rode perfectly every ride since the first time he was in a saddle? No, like every other rider, he probably had rides that weren't pretty to watch.
    It takes time to fix mistakes. I was doing a jumping clinic a few months ago and the person doing it said something along the lines of this (numbers and wording are probably off but you'll get my point) "It takes 24 hours of doing something to make it a habit. So if you think about how long it takes to go over a jump, how many jumps you do each lesson and how often you get to ride; it will take you many many rides and jumps to correct your hip angle (she was saying this to another girl who didn't bend enough at the hip)."
    My point to all of that is; don't get frustrated. Be patient and you will correct the mistakes. My trainer always asks us "Are you every aloud to give up?" and like robots me and the other riders always answer "No". So don't give up, your get it.
         
        05-05-2010, 04:27 PM
      #17
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by horsequeen373    
    There is a HUGE difference between noticing mistakes and obsessing over them. You need to find a balance between praising yourself for the things you did right and trying to fix what is wrong. If you completly ignore your mistakes and just focus on what your doing right then you'll get a big head and never fix your mistakes. But if you just focus on what your doing wrong (which seems to be what your doing, trust me I do this too, my trainer had to talk to me about it haha) then your going to be so hard on yourself that you start to get frustrated and that will prevent you from really doing anything to solve the mistakes. Plus it's just not healthy to be hard on yourself so much.
    Everyone has times when they take a step back in their riding. This is probably true in other sports as well; you know how people alway say Michael Jordan got cut from his highschool basketball team? Well, do you think George Morris rode perfectly every ride since the first time he was in a saddle? No, like every other rider, he probably had rides that weren't pretty to watch.
    It takes time to fix mistakes. I was doing a jumping clinic a few months ago and the person doing it said something along the lines of this (numbers and wording are probably off but you'll get my point) "It takes 24 hours of doing something to make it a habit. So if you think about how long it takes to go over a jump, how many jumps you do each lesson and how often you get to ride; it will take you many many rides and jumps to correct your hip angle (she was saying this to another girl who didn't bend enough at the hip)."
    My point to all of that is; don't get frustrated. Be patient and you will correct the mistakes. My trainer always asks us "Are you every aloud to give up?" and like robots me and the other riders always answer "No". So don't give up, your get it.
    Thanks a lot for that post. It was helpful
         
        05-05-2010, 06:55 PM
      #18
    Foal
    You will eventually be a wonderful horseperson because you care so much. If it's any help, a lot of us riders will get in a slump and have some bad rides. But if you keep at it, you'll have a breakthrough one day, and all of a sudden your riding will improve a bunch. A lot of times when I have a bad day with one of my horses, I remind myself that often, the next ride I have will be the best one ever. It's also really great that you are riding more than one horse because that's the fastest way to become a better rider. Don't beat yourself up too much, just kick on!
         
        05-06-2010, 03:59 AM
      #19
    Weanling
    I agree. Notice but don't obsess over your mistakes. It gets you down on everything else.
    It sounds like your having a bad time with life in general. I find my mood effects my riding, so if i'm feeling like i'm stuffing up everywhere I usually stuff up everywhere.
    You have only been riding 2 years.....you will make mistakes, just be sure you learn from them.
    I make mistakes, i've been riding for 6 years.
    Changing horses does make a difference, my new horse is tall, bouncy, unbalanced, uneducated with a huge stride. My older horse ozzie is short, fat, lazy, flat movement, educated and balanced. I almost fell off marco first ride. Private lessons do help alot!!! In 8 weeks of private lessons I learnt more then 2 years of pony club group lessons. My horse went from hollowing out his back to doing elevated extention trot! Marco is learning to use his muscles and go on the bit so he's still learning but I tell you what, it's like day and night those two :)
    What people are trying to say is go on a trail ride, have fun, do something different to liven things up for both of you :) remember to fart around and have fun every now and then
         
        05-07-2010, 01:39 PM
      #20
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by RideroftheWind    
    Usually I'm a decent rider, but lately I've been going through a really tough time with my riding. I go over jumps and notice my crap position. I swerve around corners because both me and the horse are aweful when it comes to cutting corners. And I'm constantly accidently clamping with my legs or pulling at the bit during jumps or doing other stuff to make him uncomfatorble. . . . I don't mean to, but just little things like squeezing too hard or giving the wrong commands or pulling too hard are a pretty big deal.
    You are at a plateau. This will happen all through your riding life. You'll feel thrilled at how much you're improving, then frustrated when it seems to stop for a while. Or--gasp--go backward. What's happening is that you've understood a new concept mentally, but haven't taught your body how to do it yet. For the vast majority of us who aren't natural riders, this is the way it has to be. The brain comes first, then the body. The really tricky part is when you're partway there with your body, but haven't got the finishing touches yet. That's when you have to relax mentally and just blindly follow your instructor (hopefully your instructor is good enough so you can do that).

    If you're plateauing for more than, say, a month, it's time to get creative. Ask your instructor for ideas on a different way that you can learn this next step--but don't rely just on your instructor. Find books that deal with what you're having trouble with, and see if anything strikes a spark with you. The best riders often say that they spend time visualizing how to ride perfectly, down to the smallest detail. They also do things like take up yoga or tai chi to learn how to be relaxed and effective at the same time.

    Remember that you can improve a lot with work at the walk and trot. Riding bareback and/or without stirrups can help. Learning how to do some in-hand work can help you as well as the horse. Switching disciplines for a short time can help. Anything to give your body and brain more ways to learn.

    Ignore the people who blame the horse or tell you to be satisfied with less. I agree with Flagstaff that you have a lot of potential. It shows in your humble attitude and your understanding of the horse's point of view. I suggest that you start a riding journal. After every ride, note down what you did and how things went. You'll soon be able to tell how you're progressing. It can be surprising to look back after a few months and see what you actually have accomplished!
         

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