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    07-24-2012, 04:24 PM
my trainer forgot about me...

Every tuesday at 12:00 or 12:30 I have my lesson on kalypso.

Today I went to the barn with my sister to ride. I saw my trainer loading hay into the barn with the hay guy. So I got down to the ring with kalypso and began walking around. So I figured that once she was done loading hay,she would come down to the ring and start my lesson.

So now its 12:30(i was in the ring around 12:10ish)and im still waiting. Trainer was done loading hay. My sister comes down with her horse to ride. Then a few mins later,trainer steps out of the barn to yell down to my sister about something and im 90% sure that she saw me ridng in the ring too.

Then I see her leave the barn and go to her house. She never came back out. :(

So 1:00 comes by and we(my sister and I)are still riding.

I normaly ride for a short time. Today I rode for an hour. I don't do so good with hour rides.

As we were leaving the barn trainer was down in the ring doing a 2:00 lesson with a little girl. So I don't understand why she forgot about my lesson and not a little girl's lesson.

My sister wanted to get a lesson for tomorrow but she never got a time because the trainer kept talking about other things. So she's just going to show up at the barn and say *can I get a lesson now*
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    07-24-2012, 04:33 PM
Does your trainer have a phone? Call and ask her.

Trainers are people too .. there may be other things going on in her life right now.

Try not to take it personal until you find out the reason why.
    07-24-2012, 06:09 PM
I would take it personally if it was scheduled and I was paying her. You probably should've confronted her and politely reminded her.. Or asked your parents to, if you're not comfortable doing so. If it was scheduled and is a service you pay for, she should've either been out there on time or let you know that she had to reschedule..

I would call her ahead of time and ask her about your next scheduled lesson, just to make sure that the plans are in place.
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    07-24-2012, 07:03 PM
I have a lot of experience dealing with flaky people. (I don't know why, but I seem to attract them) Once I determine that a person may or may not remember their commitments to me, I make an effort to remind them more than I normally would. It's a fine line between reminding and bugging, but if they're forgetful then they need the extra prodding.

Go ahead and call and confirm when your next lesson is. Then, when you get there, be sure to say hello to your instructor and let her know you're there for your lesson. If she looks busy, ask her when she'll be done. If she's more than 5 or 10 minutes late, go looking for her. Be persistent.

It's very possible that she remembered the little girl's lesson at 2:00 because her parents made sure the instructor was there.
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    07-24-2012, 09:53 PM
Thank you guys for your replys.

My lesson is a set thing in her book. Every tuesday at 12 or 12:30.

So I don't know what happened today. She is a tad fakey I must say.. :(

The little girl got dropped off at the barn. I didnt see her parents get out of the car. So the trainer just came out 2 and saw the girl waiting outside for her.
    07-24-2012, 10:07 PM
Even if it's a set thing she could still have forgotten. I would have reminded her whilst you were there.
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    07-24-2012, 10:17 PM
Is it 12 or 12.30? If you weren't there by 12 perhaps she thought you weren't coming, then got distracted by the hay job. Or maybe the hay guy is really hot and drove everything else out of her head?
    07-24-2012, 10:19 PM
Instead of sitting on the horse making posts on here, perhaps you should have (a) ridden and accomplished something on your own (b) reminded the trainer instead of wasting energy stewing about it (and posting such). I get the feeling you are young. If you are going to count every time someone is late or forgets an appointment you will never accomplish much in life. Just a suggestion. Trainers, bosses, EVERYONE-is human. Just as you are, and at some point I will guarantee you will screw up a commitment. Get over it.
    07-25-2012, 12:46 AM
Eh, know how you feel. Sounds like something my old instructor would do. :/
Even though it's quite possible that her mind was just one some important personal issue or something, it sounds like that's not really the case here. If she saw you guys there and still didn't come out then there might be a problem there. It's pretty un-professional for her not to give you her lesson. Especially if she's got it written out and it's a regular day and time for you to be there. No reason to 'forget'. Definantly ask her what happened there. It'll get everything straightened out.
There's a ton of reasons why this could have happened. But it's nothing to take personally or too seriously. Hopefully you enjoyed your ride and accomplished at least something without your instructor there.
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    07-25-2012, 01:58 AM
It's unprofessional of the trainer to not be there. However, it's immature of the OP for not doing anything about it. If my trainer was late, I would go knock on her door and ask what is going on. Standing around, coming on the forum and having a whinge, or just generally resenting the trainer is not going to change anything, and is the most childish path you could have chosen. Put your big girl panties on next time and ask the trainer what is happening.

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