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post #11 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 07:43 AM
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why did you not say something if she was on the property ?

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post #12 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 09:41 AM
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Libra, I believe it's your 3rd or 4th thread about issues with trainer. Is it the same trainer? If so it's a time to move on to the different one instead of complaining over and over.

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post #13 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 10:04 AM
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I think it's time to switch trainers. You've posted quite a bit about how your trainer talks on the phone while you ride and makes your mom babysit her kids during the lesson (I think that was you, might have been someone else). You're obviously unhappy with this one and are looking for sympathy, but the best thing to do at this point is find another trainer that you can be happy with.
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post #14 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 10:14 AM
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I think there may be a lack of communication here. She very well could have forgotten that it was even Tuesday (we older people do that sometimes), but please don't think badly of her, she's human as we all are. But you not saying anything at all are as much to blame as she is.

What I would have done after about 10 minutes of waiting would have been to go up to her and say "Calypso is all warmed up and we are ready for our lesson when you are". This would have 1) reminded her without accusing her and 2) would have given her the opportunity to let you know if for some reason she couldn't give you the lesson.

What was it that she shouted at your sister? Did you sister not understand her and ignore because maybe it was to tell you something about your lesson. Or maybe she cancelled with a parent and the parent forgot to tell you? Who knows there are many things that could have happened. At any rate, not saying anything at all when you yourself had plenty of opportunity isn't the greatest choice either.

Next time put on your big girl panties, take initiative and speak up for yourself. This is good practice for the future because if you don't learn to speak up for yourself now, you may end up being one of those adults that people know they can walk all over.
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post #15 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 02:54 PM
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OP - She could easily have thought "today is Wednesday" not Tuesday, her watch could have stopped, there are a myriad of reasons it didn't happen.

If you have already paid for the lesson call or go see her and say "since you were busy during our normal lesson time yesterday - when do you want to reschedule". If you didn't pay yet then next time you see her say something like "Sorry you were too busy for my lesson Tuesday - are we still oin for this Tuesday at 12 or do you prefer 12:30?

Since the time varies it is apparent it is not a "set" time and probably should be.

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post #16 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 03:28 PM
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I've had couple of times where my coach has missed a lesson due to unforeseeable events, one time she fell asleep and missed a meeting, but instead of complaining I schooled my horse and worked on things we needed to.
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post #17 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Cinnys Whinny View Post
I think there may be a lack of communication here.
I agree. Especially since you said the lesson is 12 or 12:30. I don't schedule my sessions for 'or'. I need to know when I am teaching and when I am available.

Are all of your fees up to date? I don't teach if I am owed money by the student for previous lessons.
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post #18 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 04:57 PM Thread Starter
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Why do you guys keep track of my posts? sister was lunging her horse and my trainer yelled down not to lunge him for long because it was hot out. It has nothing to do with me.

Yes,im update on my board fees. i always pay her on time.

I went to the barn today and my trainer said that she was sorry that she forgot about my lesson. There was no real reason. She just forgot. :P

So im having my lesson on sunday as a make up. :) Moms riding friday,im riding saturday and lesson on sunday. Then back to my normal tuesday lessons. :)

Thank you everyone for your replys. Im going to end this here.
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post #19 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 05:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Librahorsegal View Post
Why do you guys keep track of my posts?
Because people like to have the whole story, and if something you post jogs their memory they go and check.
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post #20 of 24 Old 07-25-2012, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Librahorsegal View Post
Why do you guys keep track of my posts?
If this was directed at me, I didn't mean for my post to be condescending, nor do I keep track of your posts. I just remember a few different threads you've posted about trainer issues.

Glad you got it resolved.
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