Originally Posted by horsequeen373
I am getting ready for a show coming up. I'm riding 2 different horses. One of them I'm really confident on and enjoy riding.
But the other one, I've started getting nervous jumping. He has a hard jump to get use to and I haven't ridden him in a while before now. The other night I rode him in my lesson and while the flat was wonderful, the jumping was atrocious. I kept getting left behind at jumps, falling forward on his neck, etc. It really shook my nerves. And every time a jump wouldn't go well (which was basically every jump) I would get more nervous.
I rode him again today. My trainer lowered the jumps some to make it easier for me. It wasn't as bad as the other night, but there were still some moments when I was wondering where the things I've learned in 11 years of lessons, clinics, etc. had gone.
I am now more nervous than ever. I normally only get nervous after a fall or in anticipation of doing something. But I always get over it fairly quickly. This time is different. I can't seem to shake my nerves and it's so frustrating!
This was more of a rant than anything, but any suggestions on getting over nerves is appreciated.
I give you credit for showing a horse your extremely nervous and green with! Honestly, I wouldn't do it.
From what I've read, and from my personal experiences, maybe the nervous part is making you get left behind? I know whenever I'm nervous or get left behind, the opposite happens. Once I get left behind a bunch of times, my counting gets out of whack and I start anticipating the take off for the fence. About 4 strides out, I'll lean forward, which causes my horse to lose his rhythm and either jump long or short. Just sit back, take a deep breath. It seems like this horse knows what he's doing, because he wouldn't be taking the spot if he didn't know his own step and rhythm. Just sit, count 1,2,1,2 and get in 2-point once you feel like he's getting ready to take the fence.
I know, it sounds easier said than done! But trust me, I've been there. And I still have those days! Just take a deep breath, and have confidence. Believe in those 11 years of training that you have on your back, because you know what your doing!
Also, a good way to settle nerves before a show, is take a B12 vitamin. My whole barn takes them before big shows, and we totally calm down. You can get them at wal-greens or any pharmacy(: There's no side effects or anything, just total calming!
Good luck at the show, you sound like a great rider who's just going though a tough time!