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post #1 of 8 Old 05-26-2009, 08:46 PM Thread Starter
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Nervousness went away.. and then came back. Again.

I had a bad fall from the horse I was training a few months ago that spooked me. I was nervous for a while after that. I began training a new pony and he took off with me, bucking and charging at the fence. I got him under control and didn't even loose a stirrup. I was so proud of myself I figured no horse could get me off.. and I wasn't nervous anymore.
For some reason, a week later, it just came back. I'm nervous again, and I can't get it to stop! The horse I ride is basically bombproof. He does go a little fast when he jumps but he won't go anywhere.. and I know that but it still scares me that he might throw me! Not to mention that my instructor has free choice of which horse to put me on.. she could put me back on a bucking bronc if she wanted to, which definitely adds to my nerves. . I need help with my confidence! I can definitely stay on, but for some reason I'm still scared. I'm starting to dread riding. =[ WHat can I do? I love it so much but it's getting too scary for me..
I try to just work on the basics, get my confidence up, but she doesn't let me.. =\ There isn't very much of a possibility that I could switch instructors, but is there a way I could work with her teaching style? Get used to it?
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post #2 of 8 Old 05-26-2009, 09:33 PM
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If your instructor is putting you on horses that you are uncomfortable with, that doesn't sound like she's looking out for your best interests. While you do become a better rider by riding different horses, you're trying to get your confidence back and need a horse that you can accomplish that with before you move on. I would talk to your trainer and let her know that, at least for the short term, you would like to ride a specific horse. I doubt any trainer wants to lose business in this economy, and I'd certainly hate to see you have to give up on riding because she puts you on lunatics. What is her reason for switching horses around on you?
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post #3 of 8 Old 05-26-2009, 09:43 PM
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Is there anyway you could go out sometime that's not a lesson and just putter around on the bombproof horse?

I like to do that with Lacey whenever I'm feeling a little worried... I do groundwork and then I only ride as much as I feel comfortable and as much as she feels comfortable which some days is only for 10 minutes and other days we're fine for hours.

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post #4 of 8 Old 05-26-2009, 09:48 PM Thread Starter
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There are a lot of girls that take lessons with me, so it's matter of which horses are availible and who can ride who. I might ask for Spud, let's say, and "Bob" has no one to ride. The two horses left are Spud and some lunatic, and "Bob" can't handle the lunatic horse. So who gets Spud? "Bob" does, adn I get the lunatic. :\
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Yeah, I know. I used to get the leftover lunatics too. If anything it's a compliment. She's putting you on them because you're the best rider in the group. I still would speak up and let her know what the deal is. That's not fair to you. You're there to take lessons, not to train her horses.
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post #6 of 8 Old 05-27-2009, 07:57 PM Thread Starter
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I rode Skippy this week, and I think she'll let me ride him for a few more lessons, and he's a good boy.. so we'll see. But next time she doesn't listen to who I asked to ride, I'm definitely going to talk to her about it.
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post #7 of 8 Old 05-27-2009, 08:18 PM
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I have the same problem. I've had a few bad falls, just on a particular horse, and I'm terrified when I'm riding him, even at a walk! He jigs and fidgits and stamps his feet, he can never stand still. You're absolutely NOT allowed to use any leg on him, click with your tongue just once and he's off at a gallop!

I'm 110% better on horses I'm confident on, or a better word would be, horses that I TRUST. If your instructer is putting you on horses that you don't trust, tell her about your problem, and maybe ask if you can just plod around on a bomproof horse for a while. That's what I've done - I just use the schoomasters for cantering and jumping, and I work on extension and collection on Rio (the nutcase Arabian) just at a walk and trot. It helps me heaps with my confidence!
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post #8 of 8 Old 05-31-2009, 01:01 AM
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Hey!

I had to reply to this because I used to have the same problem with being nervous. When I was first learning to jump, I did some trot poles, and the horse started to canter. (Which I couldn't do yet) I freaked out, grabbed her neck, and fell right onto a fence... maybe it was into, I don't know XD but it hurt =[
I didn't start getting my confidence back until like 4 months later...slowly but surely.
I rode a lazy QH who was sooo quiet...ride a confidence builder...not a lunatic. You aren't paying your trainer to train her horses!!
If talking to her doesn't work, just don't ride the horse. I'd switch barns. (After all, she's not going to force you to ride the horse!)

It's a terrible feeling being nervous on a horse, you start asking yourself if you even want to keep riding..

You'll get there! Just be patient and ride the right horses!!!! :)

Good luckk!


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