Originally Posted by stormyweather101 View Post
Thanks to both of you :) and I get to ride occationally more than once a week on my trainers pony. She's a huge sar in the arena and I'm hoping that she will help me imrove ecause although I know that a horse spear make a food rider, all the lesson horses at my barn are either crazy jumpers, cannot jump as high as me, don't have the endurance, or re just complete phsycos because beginners rode them alot and they just do not respond anymore. I hve a job workin on Saturdays for mucking stalls but we cannot be paid in real money and I cannot afford any type of lease because my trainer would love to see me on a full lease with her horse, not a half. I have helped out the trainer at the barn for the last 2 years but once again I cannot get money. I find it really extremely hard because my parents have no support for what I do but they know I love it. They just don are and will not drive to the barn or o shows at all. I hardly doubt they know what a horse looks like. If you guys have any more suggestions that'd be great. I have been wanting this since I was 8 but I only have about 1000 dollars, and even with that y parents say I'm not allowed to spend it on anything horse related. =[
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Well kiddo, you are in a very common situation. Which doesn't make it any easier, I know. Your parents are setting rules for you that they think are best for you in the long run. I can't disagree with them, because it's very, very hard to make a living working with horses. The people who do either (a) started off rich (b) spent years and years spending every possible penny and every possible hour of every possible day at the barn learning and working HARD or (c) have accepted the fact that they'll always be poor, but they can't imagine themselves doing anything else.
As a parent, I insisted that my daughter focus on school, get good grades and go to college so she could earn actual money and have a decent life for her family some day, and find a way to fit horses into that. She never said, but no, I have to fit my life around horses, horses are my life and everything else is second. THAT is what you have to do in order to "make it in the horse world." If that is how you feel, then you'll prove it by spending all your time at the barn, not just riding but learning about feeding and conformation and ground driving and . . . you get the picture. One way or the other, you're going to have to sacrifice.
Most people end up deciding that having actual money for things like drivable cars and occasional movie nights is a better way to go than living a life of purely horses, working 80 or more hours a week doing hard physical work. That is a perfectly sensible choice, maybe more sensible! Don't forget, too, that one brief accident with a horse can leave you brain damaged, paralyzed, or in constant pain for the rest of your life, and it's really good to have other skills to support you then.
It's terrific that you've already saved up $1000, and you sound very dedicated, but you have a long way to go yet. It's too bad your parents don't support your love of it--that happened to me too as a kid--but it's not the end of the world. You can go to shows with other people, which is more fun anyway. You'll have to want it really bad to succeed -- but that's true of any sport. The champions succeed because they work harder than anyone else.
You're young yet and will be going through a lot of huge changes in the next few years. Your parents may be waiting to see if you're still as committed once you get out of high school. It sounds like you're making the most of every opportunity, so just keep at it! If you want it badly enough, you'll find a way. And if it turns out that other things interest you too, well, that's perfectly okay.